We spend our lives on negativity, but practically no one monitors this for themselves and, of course, will not agree with this statement.

But from marathon to marathon, reading hundreds of reports, I see from the outside what people think about in their everyday life, day after day. The vast majority lives in a stream of fears, thoughts about problems, resentments, not noticing the beauty around and happy moments.

And some people try to prove that everything is worse for them than for others, creating the illusion of some such exclusivity, because only they are so unlucky, only they are treated unfairly, only they suffer so much.

But the desire to look weaker is quite understandable and understandable. At first, you can get extra attention, love and care. But in the end, pity leads to a dead end, most of those around you get tired of endless whining, and our sufferer is surprised to find how friends turn away at a difficult moment, but even here he does not see a causal relationship, continues to look for and find negativity, attracting even more troubles to himself and even serious illnesses.

It is much more effective to receive love and care through gratitude, the ability to see the good in yourself and others, and focus on the positive.

And it often happens that a person knows how to enjoy life, but still looks for flaws in himself and in his life.

For example, a girl sits in a beauty salon and thinks: “Everyone is so beautiful around, and I’m so fat ... I’m on vacation soon, and you won’t find a single suitable dress for my terrible figure.”

And her friend at this time thinks about her: “God, how lucky she is, she is so beautiful, she can afford her hair in the salon, and she will soon go to the sea.”

And similar situations arise for all of us at every step. We are always dissatisfied with something, but we rarely notice how rich we are, how much we get.

Have you thought about what you spend your life on?

Why do we waste our precious time so thoughtlessly and in vain? Why do we not appreciate the main thing: good health, the health of loved ones, the smile of a child, the beauty outside the window?

Hundreds of pleasant little things and real miracles every day we simply do not notice.

For example, you come to work, and someone of your colleagues said something unpleasant to you. That's it, now you have a whole day, or maybe a whole week, twist it in your head, inflating the problem, like Balloon, thereby attracting even more negativity - after all, where attention is directed, energy flows there, and this is what your life is filled with.

Did you have to borrow some money? For many of us, this problem destroys 24 hours a day. We think that there is not enough money at all, and cash flows close, financial position gets even worse.

You hold a grudge against your ex. Scrolling through negative thoughts in your head, you again and again become emotionally involved in past events, thereby destroying yourself, your health, and then other areas of life.

The more negativity in the head, the more of it in life.

I write about this again and again, because I constantly see evidence of how the way of thinking affects life, and I really want to finally convey to everyone that living in joy, focusing on good is beneficial. An amazing story happened to me recently that illustrated this principle again. I called a taxi, and suddenly a luxury car was brought by, a well-dressed driver was driving. I even wondered why such a respectable man works in a taxi. The way was long, the driver was sociable, he talked a lot and with pleasure about himself. 3 years ago this man, let's call him M., lost everything: his wife, job, money. And this happened because he hated those around him, considering them to be guilty of all his problems, he was very sorry for himself, alcohol helped to reduce the severity of suffering. As a result, he was kicked out of work, his friends turned away, his wife left with the children for another city, and even evicted from the apartment.

And then he began to tell me about the site that turned his life upside down. M. realized that only he himself was responsible for everything that happened in his life. And then he decided to change. I stopped blaming everyone around, started writing dreams, stopped drinking. Then he got a job at new job, reconciled with his wife, earned a decent amount and bought an apartment and a car. And in a taxi, he moonlights to communicate more with new people. (strange, but recently I also met a taxi driver who works in a taxi for this very purpose,although he has his own workshop... approx. Catherine), and enjoy traveling around the city at night.

He said to himself: “I didn’t communicate with anyone for a year, I was angry and offended by the whole world. And now he moved to this city, moved his family here. When I have free time, I take a taxi and meet the locals.”

And then M.! For the first time, I accidentally met a stranger offline, whom the site helped change his life, listened to my name and Katyusha and the story about us.

However, I'm not talking about that. I just wanted to give another example of how you can ruin your life, living in the negative, but it is also possible to fix, restore everything.

The most difficult and most important thing is to let go of your problems, suffering, resentment, illness, stop clinging to them, scrolling in your head, not just living with this baggage for many years, but continue to accumulate, inflating to a huge scale.

Nobody knows how long he has left to live. See how much you have. You are alive! You have food, clothes. You have a roof over your head, even if it is rented housing, you have the Internet and some kind of gadget, otherwise you would not be able to read this article.

You have brains, each of you has talents, only many justify their inaction by the alleged lack of abilities and talents (we also constantly read this in reports, in plain text).

Look how much good and beautiful is around and you can see it!

Many people can draw, sing, dance, sew, knit, cook delicious food, write poetry or stories.

What do you want now? What are you dreaming about? What gives you pleasure?

Take care of it! Try to catch happiness every day, do not waste your life on negativity, start living from scratch.

After talking with that driver, I thought for a long time that I needed something that would help get rid of negativity, merge negative emotions. And reading the reports of the participants at the marathons, I understood that we just need to create a Problem Destroyer.

And so Catherine brought my idea to life.

We've built a real Problem Killer that we've only recently launched, but we're already getting feedback that it actually works.

You will not find such a program anywhere in the world! (until they plagiarized, like everything else ... approx. Ekaterina)

Even if you have a very serious problem, I'm sure the Exterminator will definitely help you.

To do this, you need to give your problems to the Higher Forces for resolution and mentally let them go, switch.

I am often asked how to switch, I can’t, thoughts are spinning in my head on their own.

This is the case when you subconsciously need this situation, you hold on to it like a lifeline.

Here you need to analyze, but why do I need it? What bad will happen if my problem is solved?

Often we hold on to problems in order to beg for more pity, care and love (as I mentioned above), help, attention. Sometimes we are afraid of change, envy, condemnation.

Yes, you can imagine, the fear of judgment often prevents us from getting rid of problems.

In this case, you need to work on self-esteem and dependence on someone else's opinion.

By the way, do you know that when you condemn others, speak negatively about someone, you take on the trials and sorrows of this person?

Do you need it? Before you condemn or insult someone, think about whether you want new problems?

If someone speaks out in your address, then he already takes away some of your troubles on himself. So don't be afraid of judgment, live your life and follow your dreams.

A great way to switch from negativity and problems is to fill your head with positive thoughts and deeds. Read uplifting books more often, watch comedies, listen to your favorite music. Make wishes more often and buy yourself gifts.

Remember, you are the architect of your own life!

Change bad bricks for happiness bricks.

Watch your thoughts, take responsibility for everything that happens in your life.

No one is to blame for your problems and failures, only you all pull it into your life, only you can change everything.

Drain your negativity into the Destroyer and start a new happy life only with good thoughts.

And may all your dreams come true!

Few people can boast that they live without problems. Most people still have to solve certain life issues, sometimes very difficult ones. How to get rid of problems, cope with them? Different psychologists develop different schemes and methods for solving life problems, and you can use any suitable technique from them. We will now talk about one of them, namely, consider the problem solving scheme that was developed by Donald Norman and Peter Lindsay.

D. Norman and P. Lindsay: problem solving technique

How to get rid of problems using this technique? This is where information relevant to the problem plays an important role. All useful information in this case is a state of awareness about the problem. The task of a person is to gradually move from one state of awareness to another in the process of solving a problem until he reaches required state awareness to solve the problem. Transitions from a single state of awareness occur with the help of operators - the means that help move forward to solve a problem or task. According to this method, it is the finding of operators that is the most difficult moment. The operators are:

• algorithms - instructions that describe a step-by-step procedure that must be performed to obtain the desired result;
• heuristic techniques - creative, non-standard ways of solving problems, such techniques are used in cases where algorithms do not help.

In the course of solving a problem, a person can use two strategies: forward search and reverse search.

• When using direct search, a person selects a method, tests it, and then observes whether he has progressed in solving the problem or not.
• When using a reverse search, a person relies on a solution, a result that they want to get, and then thinks about the chain of steps that will lead to this result, in reverse order. In reverse search, means and ends are necessarily compared, and how they affect each other and the solution of the problem are analyzed.

Using the technique in real life: an example

Imagine the following situation: a young man began to notice that his acquaintances and friends are smarter than him, they know and can do more. Over time, this has grown into a problem that haunts him, negatively affects his self-esteem, etc. It's time to solve this problem. How to proceed in accordance with the methodology discussed above?

1. To begin with, a young person needs to collect as much information as possible about his problem. Why does he feel stupid in the company of others? What could be causing this? You need to "dig into" yourself, perhaps some complexes keep a person on a short leash, and he cannot appreciate his mind at its true worth. After all, it happens that a person is smart, but he simply does not realize it. It is important to pay attention to this point. The second point: to observe in what particular situations a person feels stupid. What are your friends talking about at the moment, what topics are they discussing? What is not clear to the young man? Perhaps he heard how his acquaintance speaks a foreign language beautifully and without an accent, or talks about the country's economy, and at that moment he thought that he could not do that, and felt stupid. All these moments need to be noticed and fixed. So gradually a person will collect information that makes him think that he is stupid. Also at this stage, he needs to determine what he understands by the expression "smart person". What should such a person know and be able to do?
2. Now we have the first state of awareness of the problem, the first perception of it. You need to determine for yourself the next state of awareness, to which you need to "reach". Suppose that a young person under the following condition determines the increase in his self-esteem, knowledge of a foreign language at the initial level, the achievement of an understanding of the foundations of the economy as a whole as a science. This is the second state of awareness to strive for.
3. Let's say that a young person uses a direct search for a solution to a problem, gradually setting himself new mini-tasks until the result suits him. So there is a first state of awareness and a second. To go to the second, you need to define operators for yourself. In this case, it is more expedient to use operators-algorithms. In the micro-task "Increasing your self-esteem", the algorithm can be as follows:
   • Find out the reasons for your low self-esteem (a professional psychologist can help with this);
   • Determine how these causes can be eliminated, by what means;
   • Using the means and methods to increase self-esteem, improve it.

In the micro-task "Knowledge of the language at the initial level", the algorithm can be as follows:

• Find courses for the study of this foreign language for beginners, sign up for classes; or go to a bookstore and buy yourself a textbook with a CD included;
• Develop a system of classes for yourself if a person studies on his own. Enter a schedule and strictly follow it, write down when and what will be studied;
• Learning a language from the basics - from phonetics, pronunciation, simple phrases to more complex forms of study - composing monologues in a foreign language, translations, live communication with a foreigner.

In the micro-task "Achieving an understanding of the foundations of economics as a science", the algorithm can be as follows:

• The study of the basic theoretical concepts of economics, without knowledge of which it is impossible to understand deeper information - this can be helped, for example, by the textbook "Fundamentals of Economics";
• After obtaining basic knowledge about the subject, you can turn to specific works of popular and recognized economists, for example, study K. Marx's "Capital".

Performing step by step all these actions, painted in algorithms, a person will gradually reach a new state of awareness. Of course, in practice, some adjustment may be required, but the essence itself will already direct a person on the right path. Next, you need to determine for yourself a new state of awareness and algorithms for achieving it. An example of a new state can be this: learn to control your self-esteem, manage it (in order to adequately evaluate yourself, and not feel like a fool when it is not), master the average level of proficiency foreign language, to study the basics of the economy of their country. It is necessary to find the right operators to achieve a new state of awareness and, of course, act!

Here's how you can quickly get rid of problems using this technique. As you can see, it is more suitable for solving global problems in several stages with many actions, as it allows you to structure the problem, sort it out and solve it, gradually moving from one step to another. You will find other ways to solve problems in our other article -.

You probably had to deal with a situation in which other people's problems turned into yours. At first they were very worried about the person, helped him in every way, then only they realized that in fact the person invented problems for himself, they do not exist. How to respond to the sincere revelations of loved ones, acquaintances? Is it worth taking everything to heart?

Accept information without emotion

When you complain about life, what is your reaction? Immediately I want to help the interlocutor, somehow support, console him. Dishonest people begin to use it, they are waiting for responsiveness. Although, if you are confident in the honesty of the interlocutor, do not rush to get into his affairs too much.

First you need to understand whether your participation is really necessary. Also rationally analyze why a person draws you into their troubles. Be sure to predict whether you will harm your interlocutor. Sometimes you help a person, and he disappoints. After that, it appears, hands drop, thoughts arise: "How can you trust people?".

life situations

Financial support

Often a situation arises when a person endlessly begins to complain about his life, that he cannot get a job, while taking advantage of your kindness - he borrows money. Have you ever wondered why he is so unlucky? What did he do for this? Maybe he didn't even try to make an effort. Your one-time help will not help such a person, everyone has to strain himself. Another thing is when you help a sick person who needs treatment, medicines. Here, money does not mean anything, the main thing is to help save a person's life.

Request and obligation

Some mothers do not particularly like to sit with children: they go to clubs, they are constantly walking with their girlfriends, so you may be asked to stay with the child. It's one thing if the help is one-time, but if it becomes your responsibility, you need to urgently take action. Remember, everyone has to live their own life. You can’t fill your head with other people’s problems, especially since you can still remain guilty. Let the person try to figure out his own problems.

Don't be in a hurry to say "yes"

For some, this word is a real trap. Once you agree to help, there is no going back. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your own interests: waste time, money, worry about everything. There are also words: “I’ll think about it well”, “I’ll weigh all the pros and cons.”

What happens if you always help everyone? Of course, if there are good, decent people around you, don't give them up. But, when you feel that a person has already “got on his head”, you need to stop with this. Perhaps because of him you cannot spend time with your loved ones, your family, slow down all your affairs. Where does it all end? Your friend does not strain himself, he is waiting for a "miracle", but you do everything for him. Some manage to get so carried away by someone else's life that they themselves find themselves in a difficult situation. Believe me, you should not waste your personal time on problems that do not concern you at all.

How to unlearn to take everything to heart?

Problems in life

Psychotherapists have long proved that when a person takes everything to heart, this affects his health - physical and psychological. All comes to the end . To avoid this, it is necessary to distract from various negative thoughts by all means, to communicate as much as possible with people who think positively. Also, do not watch films, news that charge with negativity.

Problems at work

It is impossible to work for everything to be good. There is different situations but you don't need to focus too much on them. Remember, constant depression, stress, can lead to a mental disorder. Try to constantly work on your stress resistance. Finished work? Forget about it, get distracted, try to relax. At first it will be difficult, but then you will definitely learn.

• Take care of your self-esteem . Often like to interfere in someone else's life, those who themselves did not work out with it. People with low self-esteem suffer the most. In this situation, the main thing is to appreciate, love yourself. You can go in for sports, so you can gain confidence in your abilities, temper your character. Do basic exercises first, then move on to others.
• Rethink your attitude towards life . Everything cannot be smooth. There are always ups and downs in life. It is important to understand that problems are not eternal, they end sooner or later. Everyone has their own, no need to try to change the whole world, it still won't work. On the contrary, when a person overcomes all difficulties himself, he becomes strong, able to withstand any lesson in life.
• Get rid of . You don't have to take all the negativity into your life. If something is not going well with a friend in her personal life, this does not mean that it will be the same with you.
• Know your worth . Many take advantage of kindness because they know your weaknesses. Do not allow yourself to be humiliated, offended. You don't need to depend on anyone. Constantly loaded at work, while you are constantly to blame? If you a true professional, a creative person, you will not tolerate such an attitude, you will find another, quiet job.
• Don't be naive . Some will be told made up stories, they believe in them, they give their all, cash, and then it turns out that they were deceived. It is always necessary to check everything, to perceive information rationally, not emotions.

Everyone in this life is given as many trials as he is willing to endure. You can not think that someone was more fortunate, someone less. Everyone has a hard time in life. It's just that some perceive everything easier, others complicate life. In order not to have to suffer from mental disorders, neuroses, solve only your own problems, you should not shift other people's onto yourself. Instead of being a good adviser, become someone who constantly achieves something, develops. You will immediately notice how it has become easier and easier for you to live. Good luck to you!

What prevents a person from being happy on his own? Not the government, not the set of circumstances, character, bad luck, or anything else that a person with a victim complex used to attribute as the source of his misfortunes and problems. A person will then understand what prevents him from being happy when he realizes that all the problems are in his head.

Many people think about how to get rid of the problems that haunt them in life. As a rule, at the same time, he begins to look for the source of these problems around himself: in his environment, heredity, lack of luck, fatal circumstances, or fate. As many alleged reasons, there are also many ways in which people try to solve their problems: turning to a psychologist, advice in fashion magazines, newfangled trainings, even fortunetellers and sorcerers. A person is ready to give any money for valuable advice or outside help, but does not even realize that he can help himself better than others.

Victim Complex

The fact is that the victim complex is a kind of complex that is present in almost every person, it is this complex that makes us forget about personal responsibility and live with an eye on other people. This complex is acquired and absorbed with mother's milk. According to the well-known expression, we are all victims of victims", because childhood, parental attitudes, models of behavior and interaction with the world adopted from the family are of great importance for laying in the psyche of this particular complex.

Parents give us back what was invested in them and what they learned in their lifetime. Typically, this is sacrificial psychology, in which people

• do not want under any pretext to be responsible for their lives,
• get used to justifying their failures and mistakes with a bunch of third-party reasons,
• they like to nod at circumstances, evil tongues, damage and evil eye,
• they do not want to turn inward and try, at least try to understand what exactly they caused this or that problem in their life.

Gradually, the victim complex grows together with the personality of a person so much that crying into a vest, blaming others for all his troubles and misfortunes, becomes habitual for him. The notorious "who is to blame?" will always be somewhere external environment, senseless and merciless to the unfortunate victim. And only a few are ready to accept that their environment is a reflection of personal ideas about the world, expectations, beliefs and attitudes.

What prevents us from being happy?

Every person finds happiness in their own. For some, this is a family, work, a long-awaited vacation, financial freedom. If there is a desire to find your happiness, then this is usually associated with finding a way to get away from numerous problems. Change an unloved job, change your place of residence, break off a boring relationship. Main mistake at the same time - to think that getting rid of another problem will give a much-desired feeling of happiness. Happiness is an internal category, and in order to achieve it, a person wants something around him, outside, not realizing that for complete and final happiness, he first needs to change something in himself.

People know little about themselves. We are interested in all sorts of ways to find our happiness, but at the same time we are not interested in the main way - to try to know and understand the motives of our own behavior, to determine our limiting beliefs and beliefs, to pull out our victim and get rid of her dictates. That is, it is necessary to understand that the sources of all problems are in our heads e and only we are responsible for the fact that they are in us and continue to poison our lives day after day.

How to get rid of problems

After determining the cause, one question remains to be answered: which method is most effective in order to finally get rid of problems. This is not about temporary measures such as visiting a psychologist, where you can just talk about your problems and then continue to face them in life. Food, alcohol, buying new things, new relationships and connections, a change of scenery - this is also just an excuse to get away from problems for a while, but not solve them.

As already mentioned, all problems are exclusively in our head, namely inside of us. to be quite precise, in our subconscious. The subconscious mind stores all the information, starting from childhood, about everything that we have adopted from our parents, friends, acquaintances or conclusions made on our own, all the origins of our victim complex. That is why the so-called deprogramming of the subconscious acts as the most effective and efficient tool for getting rid of problems, which can not only reveal to you all your complexes, fears, all mental baggage that hinders your development and free life, but also make it possible to forget about these problems , having worked through their sources and deep psychological roots.

One of the tools that can do this is Turbo gopher technique tested on personal experience. An interesting effect of its application is that after some time you will be able to understand that you never had problems as such. It's all about attitude: all problems existed only inside you, and the outside world only reflected your ideas about it. And then maybe you can find your happiness. Good luck!

The information in this article is the result personal experience its author, all articles are written based on their own results of using the system and are not intended to convince anyone of something.

This site is a personal initiative of its author and has nothing to do with the author of the Turbo-Gopher technique Dmitry Leushkin.

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