A few simple NLP tricks to help you improve your life. NLP for every day or simple secrets of success I know that dreaming is not only not harmful, but also useful

Eva Berger

NLP for every day. 20 rules of the winner

Introduction

If we go with the flow of life, then freestyle.

Boris Krutier

Who does not know which harbor to sail to, there is no favorable wind for him.

Do you love gambling? Like poker! But life is largely built according to the laws of gambling. If nature has rewarded you with a spectacular, attractive appearance - this is a full house. If you're also smart, it's a straight flush.

But if you own NLP techniques, it's like a joker in your pocket or an ace of trump up your sleeve.

One great philosopher said: "Hell is all other people." Well, apparently, he just had no idea about the existence of NLP ...

Imagine a life built solely according to your laws. A life in which you yourself are both a screenwriter and a director, and the people around you are executive actors who clearly follow your instructions. Imagine that generally accepted laws no longer apply to you and from now on you can choose, establish and change the rules of the game at your own discretion.

Understanding NLP today is as important as knowing several foreign languages and attending personal growth trainings once a week.

However, NLP should not be taken as just another fashion trend. You can, of course, without going into details, learn a few classically simple NLP tricks and shine with them in a party, casually, as if by the way, dropping: “Well, yes, neurolinguistic programming is my hobby.” Yes, but is it worth spending time on mastering the tops, when you can penetrate the very essence and change yourself and your life once and for all ...

NLP is such a small acronym and such a huge theory. The theory of how from a chip on the waves of fate you can turn into a full owner of your life. About how to stop fighting with people and circumstances and start living by your own rules. About how to get rid of the failures of the past and order yourself an enchanting future.

NLP is:

– technique that allows a person to perfectly control his body(for example, remove excess weight with the power of thought alone, regulate your well-being, drive away a headache without any pills, increase or decrease temperature and pressure at your own discretion);

- a program that teaches a person to easily manage himself: his emotions, thoughts, feelings, fears, moods (for example, easily overcome laziness, awaken strength and desire to work in himself, learn to enjoy any little thing or erase any unpleasant memories, easily and simply get rid of from bad habits and old phobias);

– a way to discover superpowers and talents in yourself that you didn’t even suspect before(Let’s say you have admired your girlfriend’s beautiful voice and impeccable hearing all your life, without even suspecting that you yourself sing well. NLP is the key that will allow you to open your own pantry, filled to the brim with amazing treasures, spiritual riches and amazing gifts, that you have never used before)

– the ability to find a common language with anyone(be it a harmful secretary, a boss with the manners of a tyrant and a despot, a crazy mother-in-law or a touchy wife);

– a technique that allows you to convince anyone of anything. For example, it is easy and unconstrained to prove that black is white, that psychoanalysis was actually introduced not by Freud, but by your neighbor Peter Ivanovich, and that the Earth is actually square.

And finally

NLP IS A WAY OF LIFE. LIFESTYLE OF A BORN WINNER.

Firmly knowing that he was born to be healthy, strong, successful, prosperous, happy in love, career, friendship and any of his endeavors.

What is the strength of this trendy science of NLP? In truth, the art of neuro-linguistic programming is only to find the right thoughts and the right words in any life situation. And that's it, you ask? But it's too easy! Do ordinary words and thoughts really have such incredible power and power over a person? The answer is simple and short: yes!

The irony is that all these techniques may seem so simple that people find it hard to believe they are effective. It turns out that most problems can be solved elementarily and quickly if you change your approach to them and stop perceiving everything that happens to you as a serious and intractable problem.

It really doesn't matter that much how and why this tricky technique works, more importantly, it works! So drop your skepticism. After all, you probably do not know how your mobile phone works, but this does not prevent you from using it. Likewise here...

Are you ready?

In fact, NLP is not abstract reasoning. These are specific actions, techniques and techniques designed to change your life for the better.

Therefore, if you want to not just get a general idea of Neuro Linguistic Programming, but use it to facilitate your work, family life, communication with friends, enemies and loved ones, it is time to find out how this science is right for you. So, to determine if you are ready to storm the heights of NLP, take a simple test. Answer each of the following questions "yes" or "no" and then count the number of negative answers. If it is no more than three, consider that you have not wasted your money on buying this book and learning NLP can bring you good dividends in the future.

1. I believe that the natural state of a person is to be healthy, successful, loving and loved, to live in abundance and prosperity. I know that being happy is not a luxury, but a completely normal state of affairs that every person deserves from birth.

2. I know that dreaming is not only not harmful, but also useful!

3. I believe in myself, my strengths and abilities. I want to develop them.

4. I know that my life and my happiness are in my hands.

5. I believe that any of my dreams are achievable.

6. I am ready to change myself and my life for the better.

So, if the above statements do not seem completely ridiculous to you, you can safely continue reading this book. Even if some of these thoughts now seem too naive to you, try at least as an experiment to read the book to the end. At least to see if your view of life changes for the better.

Introduction

If we go with the flow of life, then freestyle.

Boris Krutier

Who does not know which harbor to sail to, there is no favorable wind for him.

Seneca

Do you love gambling? Like poker! But life is largely built according to the laws of gambling. If nature has rewarded you with a spectacular, attractive appearance - this is a full house. If you're also smart, it's a straight flush.

But if you own NLP techniques, it's like a joker in your pocket or an ace of trump up your sleeve.

One great philosopher said: "Hell is all other people." Well, apparently, he just had no idea about the existence of NLP ...

Understanding NLP today is as important as knowing several foreign languages and attending personal growth trainings once a week.

NLP is:

– the ability to find a common language with anyone(be it a harmful secretary, a boss with the manners of a tyrant and a despot, a crazy mother-in-law or a touchy wife);

And finally

NLP IS A WAY OF LIFE. LIFESTYLE OF A BORN WINNER.

Firmly knowing that he was born to be healthy, strong, successful, prosperous, happy in love, career, friendship and any of his endeavors.

Are you ready?

In fact, NLP is not abstract reasoning. These are specific actions, techniques and techniques designed to change your life for the better.

2. I know that dreaming is not only not harmful, but also useful!

3. I believe in myself, my strengths and abilities. I want to develop them.

4. I know that my life and my happiness are in my hands.

5. I believe that any of my dreams are achievable.

6. I am ready to change myself and my life for the better.

“Damn, David Blaine! How did he do it?!" I thought about a simple street swindler who showed me real street magic. Although it was not magic at all, but just a manipulation with my mind, as a result of which I was left without the 1,000 rubles I earned an hour ago. Everything happened so quickly that I spent the whole day remembering and analyzing all his actions, which were based on the simplest NLP techniques. Of course, I knew about neurolinguistic programming of the brain, but in order to fall for the bait myself. It's even funny to think about it! Therefore, I would like to tell you more about NLP and give some cool techniques that will allow, so to speak, to influence people in the situation we need.

What is NLP?

NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is a popular field of applied psychology that was founded in the 60s of the 20th century. The founders of NLP are professor of linguistics John Grinder and student Richard Bandler from the University of California. For a long time they studied many works of famous psychotherapists, held various seminars and communicated with their patients. As a result, they succeeded in separating neuro-linguistic programming from psychology and Gelstat therapy.

NLP – it is a complex of psychotechnics, as well as verbal and non-verbal techniques that are capable of « bring in » certain information into the human brain in order to change his thinking and behavior. Neurolinguistic programming is based on working with the human mind.

And now I will tell you what NLP is capable of. Believe me, a lot, a lot!

NLP allows a person to completely control himself: his body, physical condition and health, his thoughts, emotions, feelings, fears and prejudices. A person is able to regulate his weight, pressure, body temperature, heartbeat, general well-being. With the help of NLP techniques, you can create a feeling of joy in yourself and easily get rid of any negative experiences.

NLP allows you to manipulate other people. Fall in love with yourself, fall in love. To win over anyone, to negotiate even with the most intractable person. Get the answer you need. Successfully negotiate, win the sympathy of the boss, and so on.

NLP gives a new perspective on problems, allowing not only to solve them in the easiest and fastest way, but also to get the maximum benefit from it.

NLP helps you achieve your goals in life faster, which is very important if you are developing yourself as a person. And it doesn't matter if you want to get rich, buy real estate abroad, get married or lose your excess weight. Any goal becomes closer and more accessible if NLP techniques are applied.

I think you already have an interest in Neuro Linguistic Programming! And even if you do not study psychology, you can still find a solution to its application to your personal issue that has been tormenting you for so long or a problem that you would like to solve once and for all.

Where Can NLP Techniques Be Used?

Initially, NLP was used to treat various phobias and mental disorders. The results of treatment of patients were positive in a large percentage of cases. When it became clear that NLP techniques are very effective, they began to apply them in a variety of areas.

Sales- almost all sales trainings have NLP techniques in their arsenal, when planning, when setting goals, when preparing psychologically for a visit and during a visit, NLP knowledge can be extremely useful.

Negotiation- knowledge of NLP is essential for negotiating, for understanding the client and better adjusting to him, for manipulation and counter-manipulation, for working with his condition, for identifying a strategy for making a decision by the client.

Communication, psychotherapy, goal setting, modeling- these are the constituent parts of NLP, part of this knowledge is concerned with communications and their effectiveness (rapport, adjustment, maintenance, calibration)

Psychotherapeutic part is a large arsenal of therapeutic techniques (“Swing”, “Anchor Collapse”, “Creation of a resource state”, “Quick treatment of phobias”, “Allergy treatment technique”, “Six-step reframing”, “Parts contract”, “Re-imprinting” and more many other)

In goal setting and working with them, we are helped by such sections of NLP as Well-Formed Result (HSR), TOTE, SCORE (in psychological counseling, understanding the client's goal and how to achieve it), neurological levels, time line, mission.

Modeling is the foundation of NLP. NLP grew out of modeling and all its knowledge came from modeling the behavioral strategies of brilliant people.

Public speaking- work with your condition. group calibration, controlled spontaneity, Chamomile technique, spatial anchoring, voice work, use of various predicates.

Acting- one of the basic presuppositions of NLP says: "mind and body are parts of one cybernetic system." And this means that when our thoughts change, our emotions change, and our body clearly reacts to these changes, and vice versa, changes in body position and posture change our emotions. Many acting schools are based on this.

Education Modeling is one way of learning. The use of successful strategies, beliefs, behavioral patterns, different approaches to achieving the goal, systems thinking, different perception filters, resource state increases the effectiveness of learning.

Sport- ideomotor skills widely used in sports, adopted from NLP, working with the state, coaching style training and much more.

coaching- almost all NLP tools are used in coaching (tuning, leading, calibrating, coaching position, goal setting, neurological levels, three positional perception, anchoring, timelines, all therapeutic techniques.)

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Recruitment– knowledge of the candidate’s meta-program filters allows you to understand what type of activity he is more inclined to, what motivates him better, how he will endure stress, whether he is a team player or a loner, how he makes decisions and what his values are, and much more.

Interpersonal relationships- understanding the basic presuppositions, they are the beliefs of brilliant people, gives us the opportunity to better understand other people, to understand that we are all different and each needs a special approach, that a person is a system and that two people, all the more so, a system, knowing the system laws it is easier to understand the system interaction.

seduction– all seduction trainers have completed NLP courses, all seduction techniques are based on NLP techniques. So why study the interpretation of the interpreted, when you can turn to the original source.

Army- collection of information, interrogations, work with one's condition, the "Drug of Choice" technique, used by the special forces of many countries of the world.

Customs- Information Gathering, Calibration Yes/No, True/False, Eye Access Signals

Intelligence service— collection of information, recruitment patterns, calibration, work with your state

Cinema- in many films, the characters use the techniques and skills of NLP or Ericksonian hypnosis, there are films that are directly devoted to NLP, even if NLP is not called there (“Lie to me”, “Manipulator”, “Wild Orchid” and many others).

Self-development- the formation of the necessary attitudes to achieve success in any where you consider it necessary to "pump" yourself.

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I will say this, NLP is not an easy "science" and requires a very serious approach. Even mastering the most basic techniques. But this still does not prevent Neuro Linguistic Programming from being one of the most exciting and interesting areas in psychology. Thanks to the Internet, today there are a large number of options for where you can get knowledge about NLP.

Firstly, these are various sites where a sufficiently large number of informative articles have already been written to begin to understand this topic. Secondly, various seminars, webinars, trainings and courses conducted by highly qualified specialists in this field. And thirdly, these are, of course, books that are the most convenient and popular way to start learning NLP.

There are a lot of books themselves. The eyes may diverge at first. There are both for beginners, where basic skills are considered, and for "advanced" ones, with consideration of the application of NLP in some already defined area. Of course, I have selected for you some of the best, most interesting and popular books on NLP that I have read myself. Even two are in my personal library.

I recommend the books that will be discussed now not only to those who are interested in NLP itself and its methods, but also to those who have decided to start their own path of self-development and are determined to improve their personal characteristics, improve understanding of themselves and those around them in life in general. So let's go.

Bob Bodenhamer, Michael Hall "NLP Practitioner"

This book must be read first. It is a collection of the most interesting materials on NLP. From this NLP book you will learn general information about Neuro Linguistic Programming with a description of the ways and methods used by this "science". I want to note a large number of examples and exercises that contribute to the effective assimilation of the material. Recommended if you don't know what NLP is.

Joseph O'Connor NLP. A Practical Guide to Achieving the Desired Results”

The author offers effective practical techniques for obtaining self-improvement and suggestion skills. You will gain knowledge that allows you to better understand people and delve into the laws of communication. The information contained in D. O'Connor's practical guide can be applied in education, law, management, business, sports, etc.

R. Bandler, D. Grinder "From frogs to princes"

Recording of an introductory lecture on NLP, finalized and adapted for reading. The materials of this three-day lecture, read by the authors in 1978, will help to form a general impression of the science of NLP, understand the basic mechanisms of influence, and teach you to gently and tactfully lead any person to the goal. NLP methods work even in cases where psychologists are powerless. The book is recommended to everyone who is interested in the issues of communication between people: psychologists, sociologists, psychotherapists, etc.

Manly Hall "The 77 Best NLP Techniques"

In the book of specialist Michael Hall, the most effective NLP techniques are collected. The application of the proposed methods will help in personal development, the ability to communicate, and the disclosure of one's own potential. Knowledge of NLP techniques is applicable to activities in the field of business, education, psychology, sociology, and management. The book is intended for a wide range of readers and will be useful to every person striving for self-development. I highly recommend this book! She is just the bomb!

Anvar Bakirov "How to manage yourself and others with the help of NLP"

This is my desk book! Written in an innovative spirit with lots of anecdotes. Therefore, this book is not to be taken seriously. From this book, you will learn how to inspire trust at a glance, manage your own and other people's emotions, benefit even from defeats, easily unravel the most neglected conflict situations, and lay all these “daily victories” into the foundation of one big building called LIFE SUCCESS. This book is well structured and easy to follow.

Sergey Gorin NLP. Bulk Techniques»

Collection of fragments of NLP seminars conducted by the author from 1993 to 1995. Examples of successful interaction between a psychotherapist and patients allow non-specialists to understand the subject of study. The only condition is the possession of the basic terms of NLP, without which the understanding of the text will be complicated. Many techniques from the arsenal of Valery Khmelevsky, one of the authorities of the Russian school of neurolinguistic programming, are described.

Harry Alder NLP: The Art of Getting What You Want

A topic worthy of attention is how the dream “works”. Someone calls it castles in the air, someone calls to dream as much as possible. One thing is clear - we love to do it. And the author of the book clearly shows the mechanism of the dream. We are all products of dreams. The quality of your dream determines the quality of your life.

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7 NLP Techniques for Manipulation and More

Most of us do not even realize that on a daily basis their consciousness is controlled by other stronger personalities, who are subject to many NLP techniques for manipulating people. Interestingly, each method of such hypnotic control is effective in itself, and it is difficult to imagine the power that arises when several techniques are combined at the same time. By the way, you need to know them not necessarily in order to control others, but in order to possibly counteract many criminal hypnotists, government officials, scammers, etc.

NLP Technique 1. JOIN
This is the first technique that any NLP practitioner starts with. When a stranger approaches, the human brain signals danger and tries to intuitively defend itself. It is unrealistic to suggest something to a wary person. To establish contact, you need to start copying your interlocutor in some way. Adjustment methods: postures, gestures, gait and breathing, voice, etc. The scammer who scammed my friend and I started by adjusting our walk on the street and followed us to the beat for several minutes.

NLP technique 2.RAPPORT

Behind the adjustment comes the building of trusting relationships. This is the rapport. If the adjustment went well, then the NLP-er with another person creates a certain system, a common trusting space. Do you remember the trouble-free phrase from Kipling's "Mowgli": "We are of the same blood: you and me!". It is this formula that operates in rapport. In this state, the threshold of criticality towards a person decreases, sympathy, unconscious trust arises. “It seems that we will find headphones there,” I said to Kostya, pointing to the store sign. “Guys, I am a salesman in this store, I can sell you headphones. What do you want? the swindler said.

NLP technique 3.3 YES

After the rapport is established, you can already begin to manipulate and first you need to send the person into a light trance. This is done with 3 questions, to which the person must answer a positive YES. This technique is based on the law of inertia, i.e. the movement of thought accelerates in a certain direction. After a series of questions from the scammer on the 4th time he said: “Guys, do you have a thousand rubles. Do I urgently need to exchange money and give it to a person? "Oh sure!" - I said and took out a bill.

NLP Technique 4. BREAKING THE PATTERN

A pattern break is an unexpected phrase or non-standard action performed in a normal situation. Breaking the pattern is easy. You choose the behavior you are going to change and act in the opposite or in some other unexpected way. As an example, I can cite a very real life situation. On one date, I told a girl that we would eat cake together at my place, but only without sex. For her, it was still that pattern break. I knew that she already wanted me. There was sex, of course. The fraudster also made a template break about his work. I don't remember literally.

NLP Technique 5. SWITCHING ATTENTION

The essence of this technique is simple. You transfer the person's attention to another topic with the help of a question or to another object of attention. Our brain or our vision can focus on one thing. With the rest of the area, you can do whatever you want. This technique is often used by illusionists, and con artists too! “Guys, be careful with your money, there are drug addicts over there on the corner, stay away from them,” he told us, pointing at the men 50 meters away from us, meanwhile changing banknotes.

NLP Technique 6. INTRODUCTION

When the basic NLP techniques have been worked out, then you can do whatever you want with a person. This is called "leading". Leading is impossible without trust. Guys, go get warm while in the store and look at the headphones. And while I'm going to give the money. And we went! Entering the store, we quickly came out of the trance. They looked at each other, realizing what had happened, and immediately rushed to the street. He disappeared, as did our newly earned money. I will remember this story all my life. And I know for sure that NLP techniques work quickly and effectively. How many such approaches do you need to do everything so masterfully. Probably a lot. That's why they are scammers.

NLP Technique 7. Reframing

One of my favorite techniques. It is very simple and gives a very cool result. This is not about manipulation, but about attitude to life. I use it when I realize that a negative situation is starting to "suck the energy out of me." Reframing is a technique that allows you to change the point of view, and therefore the perception of an event or object. When a bad situation happens, I say: "My world takes care of me." And I understand that this is the best option that can happen at the moment in my life. I took this technique from W. Zeeland's Reality Transurfing.

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So you got acquainted with 7 effective NLP techniques that can be applied every day. It will be better if you apply the techniques for yourself, to develop your effectiveness in life. Good luck to you!

Eva Berger

NLP for every day. 20 rules of the winner

Introduction

If we go with the flow of life, then freestyle.

Boris Krutier

Who does not know which harbor to sail to, there is no favorable wind for him.

But if you own NLP techniques, it's like a joker in your pocket or an ace of trump up your sleeve.

One great philosopher said: "Hell is all other people." Well, apparently, he just had no idea about the existence of NLP ...

Understanding NLP today is as important as knowing several foreign languages and attending personal growth trainings once a week.

NLP is:

– the ability to find a common language with anyone(be it a harmful secretary, a boss with the manners of a tyrant and a despot, a crazy mother-in-law or a touchy wife);

And finally

NLP IS A WAY OF LIFE. LIFESTYLE OF A BORN WINNER.

Firmly knowing that he was born to be healthy, strong, successful, prosperous, happy in love, career, friendship and any of his endeavors.

Are you ready?

In fact, NLP is not abstract reasoning. These are specific actions, techniques and techniques designed to change your life for the better.

2. I know that dreaming is not only not harmful, but also useful!

3. I believe in myself, my strengths and abilities. I want to develop them.

4. I know that my life and my happiness are in my hands.

5. I believe that any of my dreams are achievable.

6. I am ready to change myself and my life for the better.

cruel games

Perhaps, after reading all of the above, you are a little surprised. After all, NLP is usually positioned as a hard science for ruthless, cunning, smart and not burdened with excessive morality people. They say that with the help of NLP, anyone can learn to manipulate others, like pawns in their game. They say that with the help of NLP you can make another person do anything. They say that NLP is an excellent tool for zombification, intimidation, and control of the masses.

NLP is used by professional politicians, PR people, businessmen, sales managers and everyone, everyone, everyone who, on duty, needs to be able to breed honest people.

NLP is considered an integral part of the cruel games and cunning intrigues of the modern world.

But in fact, neuro-linguistic programming should not be considered such a vicious science. It's all about how you use your strength, your abilities, and your skills. We will talk about the ethical side of the issue. But the funny truth is that using NLP magic just to try to control other people is like shooting sparrows with a cannon.

And really, why waste precious time and energy, to intimidate/change/manage other people, when mastering NLP can help you qualitatively change your own life?

Fortunately, real power, as a rule, comes only to those who know how to manage it ... those who just want to play omnipotent and omnipotent manipulators, assert themselves at someone else's expense and feel cool and invulnerable, resorting to NLP, often look very funny...

Instructive story.

A few years ago, when I was a correspondent for a women's magazine, an editor gave me the assignment to write an article about pickup trucks.

Pick-up artists were fashionable guys at that time, a kind of Don Juan and Casanova (not so much born as made, trained by masters of manipulation and neuro-linguistic programming), famous for their incredible ability to seduce women, and then throw them in the most brutal way. They collected their victories over the fair sex and gladly accepted new brethren into their ranks. Among all other methods of seduction, pick-up artists especially singled out NLP and with great zeal studied the principles of "rapport", "anchoring" and everything that could help them in seducing girls and manipulating their feelings.

If we go with the flow of life, then freestyle.

Boris Krutier

Who does not know which harbor to sail to, there is no favorable wind for him.

Do you love gambling? Like poker! But life is largely built on

the laws of gambling. If nature has rewarded you with a spectacular, attractive

appearance is a full house. If you're also smart, it's a straight flush.

But if you know NLP techniques, it's like a joker in your pocket or

ace of trump sleeve

One great philosopher said: "Hell is all other people." Well, apparently he

I just had no idea NLP existed...

Imagine a life built solely according to your laws. Live in

which you yourself are a screenwriter and director, and the people around you are executive

actors who strictly follow your instructions. Imagine that the generally accepted laws on

you are no longer covered and from now on you can choose, install and

change the rules of the game as you see fit.

Understanding NLP is as important today as mastering several foreign languages.

languages and once a week to attend personal growth trainings.

However, you should not take NLP as just another fashion trend. Can,

of course, without going into details, learn a few classically simple NLP

tricks and shine in the party, casually, as if by the way dropping: “Well

Yes, Neuro-Linguistic Programming is my hobby.” Is it worth it

spend time learning the tops, when you can penetrate the very essence and

change yourself and your life once and for all...

NLP is such a small acronym and such a huge theory. The theory of how

chips on the waves of fate can turn into a full owner of your life. O

how to stop fighting with people and circumstances and start living your own way.

rules. About how to get rid of the failures of the past and order yourself an enchanting

NLP is:

A technique that allows a person to perfectly control his body (for example,

remove excess weight only by the power of thought, regulate your well-being,

drive away a headache without any pills, raise or lower the temperature and

pressure at your own discretion);

A program that teaches a person to easily manage himself: his emotions,

thoughts, feelings, fears, moods (for example, easily overcome laziness,

awaken the strength and desire to work, learn to enjoy any little thing or

erase any unpleasant memories, easily and simply get rid of harmful

habits and long-standing phobias);

A way to discover in yourself superpowers and talents that you even

I didn’t suspect (let’s say that all your life you admired a beautiful voice and impeccable

with the hearing of his girlfriend, without even suspecting that you yourself will eat well. NLP

The key that will allow you to open your own pantry, filled to the brim with

amazing treasures, spiritual riches and amazing gifts that

you've never used before)

The ability to find a common language with any person (whether it be a harmful secretary,

a boss with a tyrant and a despot, a crazy mother-in-law or a touchy wife);

A technique that allows you to convince anyone of anything. For example, easy and

easily prove that black is white, that psychoanalysis is in fact

it was not Freud who introduced it, but your neighbor Peter Ivanovich, and the Earth is actually square.

And finally

NLP IS A WAY OF LIFE. LIFESTYLE OF A BORN WINNER.

Knowing for sure that he was born to be healthy, strong,

successful, prosperous, happy in love, career, friendship and any

undertakings.

What is the strength of this trendy science of NLP? In truth, art

Neurolinguistic programming is only that in any

life situation to pick up the right thoughts and the right words. And all

you ask? But it's too easy! Are ordinary words and thoughts

really have such incredible power and power over a person? The answer is simple and

short: yes!

The irony is that all these techniques may seem so

simple, that people have difficulty believing in their effectiveness. It turns out that most

problems can be solved elementarily and quickly, if you change the approach to them and

stop perceiving everything that happens to you as serious and intractable

problem.

It doesn't really matter how or why this tricky technique works, much more

more importantly, it works! So drop your skepticism. After all, you surely

do not know how your mobile phone is arranged, but this does not prevent you from using them

enjoy. Also here...

Are you ready?

In fact, NLP is not abstract reasoning. These are specific actions

techniques and techniques designed to change your life for the better.

Therefore, if you want to not just get a general idea of

Neuro Linguistic Programming, and use it to facilitate your

work, family life, communication with friends, enemies and loved ones, the time has come

find out if this science is right for you. So to install

are you ready to storm the heights of NLP, take a simple test. Reply to each

of the following "yes" or "no" questions, and then count the number

negative answers. If it is no more than three, consider that you are not in vain

spent money to buy this book and learning NLP can bring you

further good dividends.

1. I believe that the natural state of a person is to be healthy, successful,

loving and loved, to live in abundance and prosperity. I know what to be happy -

this is not a luxury, but a completely normal state of affairs that every person

deserves rebirth.

2. I know that dreaming is not only not harmful, but also useful!

3. I believe in myself, my strengths and abilities. I want to develop them.

4. I know that my life and my happiness are in my hands.

5. I believe that any of my dreams are achievable.

6. I am ready to change myself and my life for the better.

So, if the above statements do not seem completely ridiculous to you,

Feel free to continue reading this book. Even if some of these thoughts

now seem too naive to you, try at least as an experiment

a better idea of life.

cruel games

Perhaps, after reading all of the above, you are a little surprised. After all, usually NLP

positioned as hard science for the ruthless, cunning, smart and not

people burdened with excessive morality. They say that with the help of NLP anyone can

learn to manipulate others like pawns in your game. They say with

With the help of NLP, you can force another person to do anything. They say NLP

This is an excellent tool for zombies, intimidation, control of people

NLP is used by professional politicians, PR people, businessmen,

sales and everyone, everyone, everyone who, on duty, needs to be able to breed honest

NLP is considered an integral part of the cruel games and cunning intrigues of modern

bad science. It's all about how you use your power, abilities and

your skills. We'll talk more about the ethical side of the issue. But the funny truth

is to use the magic of NLP just to try

to control other people is like shooting sparrows with a cannon.

And indeed, why waste precious time and effort, exchanging for

bullying/changing/manipulating other people when mastering NLP can help

you qualitatively change your own life?

Fortunately, real power usually comes only to those who know how to use it.

dispose of ... those who only want to play omnipotent and omnipotent

manipulators, assert themselves at the expense of others and feel cool and

invulnerable, resorting to NLP, often look very funny ...

Instructive story.

A few years ago, when I was a correspondent for a women's magazine,

The editor gave me an assignment to write an article about pickup trucks.

Pick-up artists were fashionable guys at that time, a kind of Don Juan and Casanova (not so much

born, how much made, trained by masters of manipulation and

Neuro Linguistic Programming) were famous for their incredible ability to

to seduce women, to throw them in the most brutal way possible.

They collected their victories over the fair sex and gladly accepted

into their ranks of new brothers. Among all other methods of seduction, pikapers

especially singled out NLP and with great zeal studied the principles of "rapport",

"anchoring" and everything that could help them in seducing girls and manipulating

their feelings.

Since the magazine I worked for was a women's magazine, I was given quite

clear directions to write a tough, ironic article exposing pick-up artists on

ridicule, which I actually did. At that time, I hardly knew

what is NLP, did you know that it is something very complex and really

miraculous. However, it was not important. While working on the article, I fluently

reviewed descriptions of some NLP techniques adapted to the principles

pickup. Some tricks seemed to me efficient, from others I literally

disassembled laughter. I especially remember the technique called “How to breed any

girl for oral sex. In it, the guy had to ask his victim what

the fruit seems to be the most delicious. And after the girl answered, for example:

"Mango", the guy had to smoothly bring her to a direct association between her

favorite fruit and our manhood. Apparently, it was meant that

the end of careful processing, the girl will sincerely be imbued with the conviction that

Oral sex is as pleasurable as savoring a mango or something else.

some exotic fruit. Of course, I am very happy

ridiculed the naive pick-up technique in her article. And after the publication of the magazine

began…

Pikapersky forum buzzed like a beehive. My humble article written, mind you,

for women, caused an incredible stir among heartthrobs-nlpists. Forgetting everything

learned by them the wisdom and subtleties, pick-up artists covered me with plain

obscenities, and most of their fiery-angry statements were in the style of "she

stupid". Such a reaction did not surprise or touch me. Finally, in my

article was nothing personal: I was simply asked to make fun of a pickup truck, and I

just did it.

Several months passed. And one day I met an interesting and

an attractive guy. We began to chat, and along the way it turned out that he

I also used to work in a pickup truck and even read my article. To my greatest

amazement, he did not express any aggression towards me. On the contrary, he spoke

in my defense, recognizing that the article was written objectively and that most

pick-up artists are really those bastards who use their skills to

self-affirmation at the expense of unhappy girls, and not in order to build

normal relationship. The more we talked, the more I liked him. I

already began to seriously think about how to move with him to a new stage

proximity. And even invited him to a romantic dinner, which, in my opinion

calculated, should have been a smooth transition into a joint breakfast. Alas... in

climax my hero for no reason as if by chance

asked: “Tell me, what is your favorite fruit?” In response, he disassembled me

stupid laugh. I could no longer perceive him as a potential lover.

An exciting moment turned into a comedy of positions ... Since then, we have not communicated ...

Several years have passed. I started to take NLP seriously. And tried

analyze why that pick-up artist failed to seduce me. For to me he

really liked it. Yes, and the NLP techniques that are used in the pickup truck are very

effective.

Only now I understand that NLP is not just a set of common truths and

proven techniques. This is also masterful improvisation, the ability to instantly appreciate another

person and understand what strings of his soul you need to play in order to get

maximum results in minimum time.

The people around us are too different to indiscriminately apply to them all

learned tactics ... this is the main difference between those who want

pick up the top NLP and manipulate people for their own gain, and

those who want to qualitatively change their lives for the better. That is why the

second, the chances of truly mastering a difficult technique are much higher

Neuro Linguistic Programming and learn how to use it to your advantage

and to your loved ones.

NLP is non-words and reasoning. NLP is specific actionable techniques. So

but also, starting right on this page, perform small and simple

practical homework.

Practical task number 1

Take a piece of paper and a pen. After thinking carefully, choose and write down five

your most cherished desires, which seem especially tempting to you, but

completely unfeasible.

For example, you always dreamed of going on vacation to the Cote d'Azur, but never

didn’t even try to find out how much the ticket costs, because you don’t

pocket / stupid to spend so much money on vacation / you can not leave work

and children, etc.

Or maybe you've wanted to be an artist all your life, but you think it's hard to break into

bohemian get-together tastes too hard, creative work is too unstable or

that you have no talent. Or maybe you would like your husband to stop

to change or to have your wife finally stop smoking. In a word, take five

your most cherished and most unfulfilled desires. Write them down on a piece of paper.

paper. Seal your list in an envelope and do not open it until you

your envelope, take out the list and check how many of these five wishes

now seem quite real and easy to do.

Chapter 1

Stranger in the mirror, or who are you, Mr. Brooks?

As long as a person has not found himself, he has nothing to lose.

Boris Krutier

Even in the worst person you can find something good if you carefully

search.

Boris Krutier

It seems to you that you know yourself perfectly: your strengths and weaknesses, your

ideals, achievements, skeletons in the closet, your dreams, talents, optimal for you

suit cut or lipstick color that best matches your hair color. On the

In fact, man is like an iceberg. Only a small part of his true personality

located above the water and visible to everyone, while most of it is hidden from others and from

the person himself.

You thought you knew yourself well, in fact you don't even know

what thoughts, abilities, desires and knowledge are hidden under your habitual

shell...

On your marks. Attention. March!

Let's start with a little experiment. Take a sheet of paper and a pen. BUT

Now ask yourself: “Who am I? Who do I think I am? What am I really?

Write down the first word that flashes through your head, no matter how ridiculous and

it seemed meaningless to you. And then, after thinking carefully, choose a word,

which best describes you. Write down the closest and most acceptable

answer for you.

The definition that came to your mind first is your true attitude towards

to yourself; the definition that you ended up writing down on a piece of paper is

what you aspire to be and who you want to be.

Perhaps the very first answer to this question was completely ridiculous and stupid.

For example, when you asked yourself: “Who am I?”, you seemed to jokingly answer yourself: “Idiot”, and

then, after carefully considering all the options, they wrote on a piece of paper: "Leader."

This may seem like nonsense. But this is a really important test. First come

the answer to your mind, as a rule, comes directly from your subconscious. He pops up

in your head so fast that your mind doesn't have time to edit it. So

Thus, the first thought that comes to your mind is likely to be very accurate. So,

while you consider yourself an idiot / bastard / smart guy / ruler of the universe. Even

refuse to admit it to yourself. But you aspire to be

leader / sage / beauty / winner. Agree, this is an important discovery.

At least now we have established the point of departure and the point of our

destination.

And if today your starting station is "Loser", "Fool" or "Victim", then

after reading this book, you will already be halfway to the Pobedel station,

"Lucky", "Leader", "Femme Fatale", etc.

The same lucky ones, whose first answer that came to mind coincided with the recorded

subsequently, one can only heartily congratulate and recommend reading this

a book to make your life easier and improve your skills

communications.

So, your true opinion of yourself was not too flattering? you called yourself

fool? Or maybe you will show yourself an old galoshes? Or are we lazy and sloppy?

The first thing you should learn is that what you think about yourself is by no means

is what you really are!!!

Our trouble is that we often forget WHO WE REALLY ARE.

We easily forget about our achievements, ignore the positive aspects of our

character, do not believe other people's compliments. But we sensitively and painfully perceive

criticism in our address, we concentrate on our failures and for some reason very willingly

we believe in our powerlessness. Conduct a simple experiment. Think your best

friend or lover. What epithet would you give this person? And now

ask him what he thinks of himself. See? Self-esteem can be very

differ greatly from what others think of a person. And that's okay.

The most popular misconceptions about famous people:

Genius with the level of intelligence of a cretin (about Andy Warhol).

The man whose mistakes took a decade to correct

Albert Einstein).

Wonderful person. He has no enemies and is not loved by any of his friends (oh

Bernard Shaw).

Maybe Shakespeare would think less if he read more? (about William Shakespeare)

Jerry is so dumb he can't walk and chew gum at the same time (oh

Gerald Ford, President of the United States).

So drop your old ideas about yourself. Especially if they

cause you pain and discomfort! After all, Marilyn Monroe herself often

complexed because of her own appearance. Leo Tolstoy considered Shakespeare

mediocrity. People tend to err. Our task with the help of NLP is again

know yourself.

We have to find out:

Who are you really?

What hidden abilities do you have?

How can your knowledge of yourself help you and make your life easier?

What is the true limit of your possibilities?

Three big differences, or Something about our way of perceiving the world

All people are divided into three large groups: visual, auditory and kinesthetic. If a

ask a few people to think about the sea, then one of them will be the first thing to do

imagine the blue sea surface, beach, waves; the other will associate

sea with the sound of the surf; atretius will remember the feeling of the burning sun and salt spray

Of course, each person is endowed with five main senses: sight,

hearing, touch, smell, taste. But there are three main ways

Perceptions of the world are visual, auditory and kinesthetic.

And each person will necessarily have one dominant sense organ. From that

how we perceive reality depends very, very much. You

Have you ever encountered something that the other person could not see at all?

problem with your position? Have you ever been in a situation where the people around you

as if they didn’t hear you? Have you ever been upset because loved ones

people did not feel the needs?

The fact is that a huge percentage of human quarrels, disagreements, misunderstandings,

contradictions and failures is connected precisely with the difference in the worldview of different people. We

all, like the inhabitants of Babylon, we speak three different languages: visual,

auditory, kinesthetic. And we raise our voices at each other, get angry,

We become irritated when others do not understand us.

However, enough to suffer because of their characteristics and individuality of perception.

It's time to use them to your advantage. To do this, we need to know who we are.

we are according to the way of perception and how we use this peculiarity of ours. well and

only then we will try to learn to speak with each person in his language.

For example, I am an auditor. Even at school, I could study textbooks until I was blue in the face and not

memorize not a word of what was read, but could hear a lecture once

the teacher to remember everything that was said without making a single note.

My mom is kinesthetic. She can't understand or remember anything until she writes it down.

this is. The most important thing for her is feelings and sensations. What type are you?

Around the world, approximately 60% of the population perceives everything that happens around on

eye. Their leading sense organ is vision. Visuals usually sit with a straight

back and elongated neck. Their gaze is often directed upwards. They are not too

sometimes abruptly. Visuals are organized and neat.

They feel extremely uncomfortable when someone approaches them too much.

close because they want to have a good view.

Visuals are easily recognized by the following characteristic words and expressions:

. "From my point of view"

. "Without a shadow of a doubt"

. "It stands before my eyes"

. "It seems to me"

. "Present in a favorable light"

. "Describe the situation to me"

. "Vague Idea"

. "Beautiful words"

No, this does not mean that auditory or kinesthetic learners never use

similar expressions! Just visuals use them all the time.

They generally love for any occasion and without resorting to visual characteristics,

like: “Brilliant, peer, see, imagine, appearance, look,

exhibit, spectacular, notice, depict, seem, flicker, foresee,

reflect, attractive, ugly, etc.”

Sometimes, they start using their favorite "visual words" (or whatever their

professionally called in NLP, predicates) beyond any logic. For example,

my young man, a typical visual, often answers the question “how are you?”

“Brilliant,” and when asked to describe a particular situation, he can

say something like: "Beautiful story" or "Nice salary."

You are visual if:

When making important decisions, choose what looks best to you.

What influences you most in a discussion is being able to see the diagram.

other person's reasoning.

By your appearance it is easy to understand what is happening in your life.

You are strongly influenced by certain colors.

You often judge the surrounding people by their appearance, although you have heard more than once

a saying about what they meet in clothes.

You can easily remember a phone number if you see it written in large

numbers, and in general you have a photographic memory.

You are well oriented in the area.

People who perceive the world by ear, approximately 20% of the total population of the earth

ball. Audials breathing and rhythmically. They love to talk, proud of what

can clearly express their own thoughts and, as a rule, dominate the conversation.

Although sometimes they are too wordy. Often they accompany their words

expressive gestures, while their hands are at face level.

Audials often engage in conversation with themselves. Their eyes usually move

from side to side. Some people are annoyed by these “shifting eyes”. After all, in

In our culture, a person who looks away is usually considered a liar. But

Audials do not look into the eyes not at all because they are lying or hiding something. Just

they are very sensitive to sounds, and their eyes may twitch involuntarily.

the direction of a dog barking in the neighboring yard or furniture rattling in the neighbors.

Audials are characterized by the use of the following expressions:

. "I want to be heard"

. "It's important for me to express myself"

. "Detailed Story"

. "Give an account of what happened"

. "I am speechless"

. "voice opinion"

. "In truth"

. "Let's talk like a man"

. "Hold your tongue"

. "Word word"

Thus, auditory people feel most comfortable speaking and hearing

the following predicates: silently, chatter, deaf, loudly, melodious, assent,

silence, resonance, noisy, ask, tell, listen, unheard,

respond, etc.

Audials perceive, process and remember information in their own way.

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