Now it's time to get a new job, and you suddenly find that you are afraid of it like fire. Even the very process of finding a suitable job is already accompanied by a sense of anxiety and an accelerated heartbeat. And when it comes to calling an employer on the phone, and even more so going to an interview, the fear becomes completely unbearable.

All this activity of searching for a new job becomes one continuous stress, and after all, finding and getting a new position is only half the battle. You still need to go through a probationary period and settle down in a new team, please the authorities and cope with new responsibilities!

Even if you already know how to skillfully cope with your work, you know it thoroughly, and your skills are brought to automatism, you are still horrified even by the very thought of a new job. “What if I can’t handle my new responsibilities? What if the new team doesn't like me? How to justify the expectations of the authorities?

How to get out of this unbearable and painful situation? Is it possible to get rid of the fear of a new job once and for all? The answer is given by the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan.

Who is afraid of a new job

By nature, they are very detailed. They are the ones who are able to bring any business to the end. And to do it efficiently, delving into the smallest details and bringing the final result to perfection. Naturally, such people experience difficulties in starting a new business, but after they have started, they bring everything to the ideal with great pleasure from the process.

The whole psyche of people with an anal vector is directed to the past, since their specific role by nature is the transfer of experience and knowledge of the past to new generations. For this reason, they have a natural fear of everything new and of the future. They are by nature absolute conservatives, since any knowledge, skills and experience must be transmitted undistorted.

Also in the anal vector there is a natural fear of disgrace. It is he who normally contributes to the fact that a person performs work accurately, bringing it to perfection.

When a person also has a visual vector, this makes him a professional, an erudite and the best specialist in his field.

From early childhood, the owner of the anal-visual bundle of vectors studies perfectly. It initially has the aspiration to be good: a good student, a worker, a good person. He is usually very interested in the opinion of other people and what they say or think about him and the result of his work.

It turns out that even knowing how to do the job perfectly, such a person still experiences fears - to make a mistake, to do everything badly and, as a result, to disgrace himself in front of others. But usually this still does not become an obstacle to a new job, but on the contrary, it pushes him to do everything even better.

Reasons for fear of work

Everything is aggravated by the visual vector. A person begins to sway emotionally and repeatedly multiplies the fear of disgrace in the anal vector. Naturally endowed with figurative intelligence and good imagination, the owner of the visual vector in a state of fear draws in his imagination pictures of what he is afraid of and what can happen. As a result, the fear of getting a job becomes overwhelming.

In addition, the natural fear of everything new in the anal vector is of considerable importance here. New people, team, place, responsibilities - all this seems intimidating, because it is unusual, and a person simply does not know what to expect. And sensitivity to the attitude of other people and distrust in the visual vector only aggravate the situation.

Bad experience in a previous job can also be a factor that prevents you from getting a new job, as experience is crucial for a person with an anal vector. Getting negative experience in something, he tends to generalize it. Therefore, he feels that if he was unlucky once, then it will always be so.

As a result, finding and getting a new job becomes a big obstacle for a person, which becomes very difficult psychologically to overcome. Consciously, he wants to get a new job, he may be tormented by guilt, but fears and bad experiences do not allow him to do this. The person is caught in a vicious circle.

The fear of getting a new job is a serious problem, because in our society, one way or another, everyone needs to earn in order to provide for themselves and their families. The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan allows you to fully work out all your fears and other negative states.

You begin to realize the nature of your psyche, all its hidden properties, talents and abilities. When you begin to become aware of yourself and all the unconscious causes of negative states, they cease to control your life scenario and create obstacles in life. Including the fear of getting a job.

This is confirmed by the numerous results of people who, after completing the training, overcame fear and found a new job:

“…I got a job that I like. It's amazing that this kind of work even exists. I thought there was no such job for me in nature. But ... oh, miracle! I have changed a lot, my priorities have changed. I found something that gives me joy! .. "

“... Without the knowledge I received at the training, I would never have returned to my real work, the work of my vocation!
Now I have everything back that I once had. What I thought I had already lost forever. With open eyes, having learned to see in a new way, I returned to my life. Without it, I would probably still be driving a taxi…”

“... The training helped me understand myself. The need to “seem” to be someone else that you are not has disappeared, it has become comfortable to be yourself. It became interesting to be myself. There was a desire to learn and develop, to absorb only the best ... read more, watch good movies and much more. For a long time I looked at photo galleries and portfolios of famous foreign photographers, and gradually a desire arose in me to try it myself. Then I earned my first camera and started shooting ... And now it would be wrong to say that I love my job - I breathe it! :love:.."

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In this article, I will not consider the case when you just got your first serious job in your life. Everything here is brand new. Everything is unusual. And advice on professional and social adaptation can be given countless.

Rule one. Let's open the chakras and calm down.

So, you are sitting on a new chair for the first day and immediately want to impress the new leadership with your remarkable talents. Nothing will come of it. You are under stress.

Whether you are so nervous that your hands are shaking or you feel a little nervous - this already depends on your personality traits. When in such a suspended state you are trying to prove that you are the best, it leads to unnecessary fuss. You will make twice as many mistakes.

By the way, if you make a mistake, don't be afraid to admit it. Try to suggest ways to fix it. And now let's take a deep breath, remember that only angels are without flaws, and even those in heaven, and open the chakras to receive as much information as possible from the outside.

Rule two. We ask questions and warm our ears.

But the information will pour on you in an endless stream. And keeping most of it in your head is the number one task in the first days of work.
You are lucky if you were met by a wise mentor on the threshold of the office. And told you the following:

1. Job instructions. As a matter of fact, what responsibilities are assigned to you and to what extent.
2. Inner order rules. Is it customary to make tea with cookies at the workplace, how many times a day you can go for a smoke break, how much time is allotted for lunch.
3. It would be ideal if you were initiated into some small things. Let's say the boss doesn't like it when people sing under their breath in the workplace. But, most likely, you will have to get such information yourself.

Therefore, we warm our ears! That is, we learn about the rules of the dress code, if it exists. If loose clothing is allowed, try not to dress too provocatively in the early days. Later, you will be able to determine what is acceptable in this team, and what is better to avoid. The appearance of a new employee can be one of the annoying factors for the "oldies".

Rule four, five, six, etc.

No need for gossip. Washing the bones is an unworthy occupation. And for a new employee is simply unacceptable.

Do not talk on personal topics on the mobile, and even more so on the office phone. In extreme cases, you should leave the working room.

Don't be late. Remember, accuracy is the courtesy of kings!

Don't stay up late. Evening gatherings most likely mean that you cannot properly plan your working day or are trying to curry favor with your superiors. Neither of these will work for you.

Of course, running headlong as soon as the arrows reached six in the evening is also not worth it. We maintain a balance.

Remember, any organization is a complex mechanism. And you will be able to become its full-fledged cog only in a few months. I hope these rules will help you spend these months without unnecessary nerves!

Getting used to a new environment, new internal rules is always difficult. When entering a new job, many people experience stress not so much from fear that they will not cope with their duties, but from anxiety about how they will be perceived by colleagues. How to behave in a new place in order to quickly get used to work tasks, make a good impression and make you immediately taken seriously?

First day

Traditionally, a manager introduces a new employee to colleagues. It is good if the company is small or it holds regular general meetings. Then acquaintance with others will happen faster. If you go to work in a corporation, be prepared to get to know colleagues for several weeks, not only through the head, but also in the process of solving problems.

On the first day, the main thing is to be introduced to those with whom you will have to communicate most often and work in close cooperation. Try to remember them. Even better - briefly write down who is called and who is responsible for what. If you have not been introduced - do not hesitate to come up and get to know yourself. The faster you do this, the easier it will be to interact further.

If you forget someone's name, ask again. It's perfectly normal to forget someone if you've been introduced to twenty people in a few hours.

If it’s customary in a company to communicate in a general work chat or in a group on a social network, make sure that you are added there (sometimes managers forget about this in the confusion). It's better to ask about it yourself.

Ask to show you the documents that regulate the work of the department or specifically your labor functions, if any. Of course, you should already be familiarized with everything that is needed for work, and if the organization has a developed corporate culture, then you will also be assigned a curator from among your colleagues to bring you up to date and support you in everything at first. But in the turmoil, they can forget about the formalities, and if all the colleagues are “on fire” at that moment, then the newcomer has to figure everything out on his own. In this case, it is important to be proactive - your success during the trial period depends on this.

Ask colleagues if the office has a dining room or kitchen and where else they have lunch. It's best to go to lunch with them on the first day, even if you usually prefer to dine alone. A joint lunch is a great occasion for a more informal acquaintance. To begin with, you can talk on neutral topics - who lives where, how long it takes to get to work, what other places for lunch are nearby.

First week

Your main task for the first week in communicating with colleagues is to remember everyone, to understand who is who and how you interact with them. Colleagues should also remember you and understand what questions they can contact you about.

At this stage, you should not stick out your talents, even if you already see that you are more experienced than your new colleagues in something. At first, take the position of an observer more and express your opinion within reasonable limits, especially if no one asked about it. It is much more important to prove that you are interested in work tasks, that you do not hack, but delve into the processes in detail and learn new things - these are the most important signs of a true professional in any position.

Ask questions. The main communication rule for the first week: "If you don't know, ask." Ask about everything that makes you even the slightest doubt. Even if it seems to you that these are stupid questions, remember that you have an indulgence - you are new here! It is better to figure out how to do it right than to do it at random. Everyone around is well aware that you are a new employee, and even expect these questions from you.

If you have come to work in a new field for you and do not yet understand the process, ask one of your colleagues to explain it to you step by step. It doesn't have to be your manager or someone senior. It may be more helpful to talk to subordinates or peers. Gradually, you will figure out how everything happens, how much it costs, how much time it takes to implement. If you are a manager, these conversations will help you optimize the processes you run. Here, the fact that you are a beginner can even become a plus: weak points are sometimes more visible from the outside than from the inside, when a person is used to everything and it seems to him that everything is going as it should.

Ruslan Lobachev, content producer, recalls: “From television, I came to work in an online cinema. The sphere is adjacent, but there are a lot of its own details. For the first week, I didn't understand why it took so long to post a movie on the app. It turned out that this is one of the sore spots in the company, and the marketing and content promotion department could not understand why video engineers constantly miss deadlines. In order to understand the production process, I asked the chief video engineer to meet with me and explain the details. After an hour-long lecture, I learned that one film weighs hundreds of gigabytes, takes a long time to download from the server of the owner company, then archives it to the cinema server, then encodes, then goes through the final stage of preparation, such as subtitles. It is impossible to do all this in one day. From the very first week, I made advance planning a priority in my work. I had to move the release dates of several films and justify this to the marketing department. But within a month, we were able to set up the release process, upload films on time and prepare them ahead of schedule.”

At meetings, feel free to outline the most important things. At first, there will be a lot of information that others understand at a glance, but for you - a dark forest. This is normal: you are new here, you have yet to delve into many nuances, understand the internal processes. This is especially true for large companies with a complex structure. If something is not clear, but you do not want to interrupt the general discussion with your questions, mark these points for yourself and ask your colleagues to bring you up to date after the meeting.

In the new circle there will always be someone who will sympathize with you from the first days and will agree to take the time to give you tips. If you don’t know at all who to turn to for help, ask who in your team was the previous “newcomer” before you - this colleague still has fresh memories of how difficult it was to get used to the new environment, he is best able to understand your feelings and, rather everything, will not dismiss if you ask for help. In order not to distract a colleague from work, the easiest way is to ask him or her to accompany you at lunch and ask the accumulated questions in an informal setting.

Look for feedback. Every day, you don’t need to approach your boss with a request to comment on your work, this is annoying. Come back after the first week (you can write a letter). Next time ask for feedback after the first month, and again after three months. It is good when the company organizes such meetings with each employee, for example, at the end of the trial period. This is usually done by the HR department. At such meetings, they discuss your impressions of the work, give you an objective assessment and together outline possible development paths and goals for the near future. But even if there are no such meetings, ask the leader to meet with you yourself. An adequate boss will never dismiss a newcomer and will find time for him.

First month

Watch your colleagues. Watch how they behave, how they solve work tasks, what is accepted in the team and what is not accepted.

Understand responsibility and differentiate it. Don't do tasks that others should be doing. There are teams where employees try to push their business to a newcomer. Learn to say a firm no if you are sure that this is not your function. And, on the contrary, specify with a direct question, whose task it is, if there is any doubt. In long-established teams, everyone is used to who is responsible for what, and the boss can set the task “into the void”, knowing that the right person will pick it up. If it turns out that in a particular case you should have become such a person, because your predecessor always dealt with such tasks, but no one informed you about this, then, of course, this will not be your fault. But the conflict situation is guaranteed.

Second and third months

It's usually only by the end of the probationary period that you realize who's who in the office. For the first three months you are a beginner. It also works in the opposite direction: colleagues look at you and gradually understand what kind of employee you are, whether you can be trusted with tasks and rely on you. Usually only after three months (and sometimes after six months) you begin to be taken seriously, especially if you are a young specialist.

Remember that others do not know how to read minds and do not understand you perfectly. While you are not yet on the same wavelength with your colleagues, try to convey your thoughts as carefully and calmly as possible. Jokes, by the way, do not always help to defuse the situation, a sense of humor is a subjective thing. First, it’s better to make sure what kind of humor they are used to in this team.

False consensus effect

This is one of the biggest mistakes that can happen to a newcomer to a team. The human brain tends to project its way of thinking onto others. We automatically assume that others think the same as we do, although this may not be the case at all. Therefore, there are misunderstandings in the transmission of information - both oral and written.

When communicating with colleagues in a new team, explain the context of your messages. "Check your watch" to make sure you're talking about the same thing. Everyone has their own quality standards, working tools, habits. Transferring the standard to which you are accustomed to in the same place to the new team, and explaining it with the phrase “But it was like this with us ...” is the same as going to a strange monastery with your charter. And the concept of "we" for you is now here, and not in the same place, although the realization of this does not appear immediately.

Remember that your colleagues may think very differently. For example, you think that after each meeting, the manager who led it should write a short summary letter to everyone who participated in the meeting. And no one in the company has done this before you. To avoid misunderstandings, discuss the benefits of such letters with colleagues.

Well, the most important thing. You came to this company to work, not to make new friends and charm others. Your manager will primarily evaluate the results of your work. Be friendly, but don't try to please everyone. Be interested in what is happening, but do not cross personal boundaries. This is the best way to get comfortable in any team.

How to make a good impression without overstepping personal boundaries

Behave naturally. Don't try to pretend to be someone you really aren't.

Be polite. Observe the rituals established in the team. If you see that colleagues are collecting for a gift to someone in the department, offer to participate. Do not immediately come up with revolutionary ideas. This is not welcome in any established team.

Less emotions. Try to think rationally at work, not emotionally. Something happened? Turn off the emotional reaction and think about how to solve the problem.

Stay neutral. Most likely, after some time you will find friends and allies here. Just like the opponents. All in good time, but first, stay neutral. It is possible that there are ongoing conflicts and other complex relationships in the team that you don’t know about yet, and there are intriguers who can immediately try to drag you into this story that is completely unnecessary for you.

When communicating with colleagues, do not ask them about their personal lives. Don't go into too much detail about yours either. Do not participate in office intrigues and do not be interested in gossip, especially if you work in a women's team. It is better to offer to discuss plans for the weekend or a new movie at the cinema.

Take care of your resume

Starting a new job is a reason to update your resume on the site, indicating in it the start of work in a new place. It might be worth changing the visibility of the resume. If your resume is open to all employers, then your colleagues in a new job can see it and think that you are not going to stay with them and search again.

There are several ways not to leave a resume open to everyone and at the same time not deprive yourself of even more interesting offers (suddenly such will appear):

• Hide CVs from certain companies. To do this, you need to create your own stop list in a special window.
• Set the mode to "Visible to selected companies". Great if you have a dream company or several dream companies, and you are always ready to consider offers from them. Your resume will be available for viewing only to those companies that you select in a special window. The rest won't see it.
• Make the resume anonymous, that is, hide the full name in it. and contacts by which you can be "calculated" by those who know you, and even places of work.
• Set the visibility of the resume only by direct link. Then no one will find it in the database, but the one to whom you send a link to it will open it. If you respond with such a resume to vacancies on the site, then the employer who received the response will also see the resume.

To set the visibility of your resume, log in to your resume and click on "Change Visibility".

But they did not mention the fear that almost all people experience when entering a new job. It is unlikely that he has any scientific name, but this fact does not prevent the beginner from worrying and being afraid to tremble in the knees, sorting through the possible scenarios in his mind and presenting chilling pictures: either the team does not accept him and builds all sorts of intrigues, then the boss turns out to be a tyrant, distributing stupid orders. Not surprisingly, the first day at a new job, as well as its anticipation, is a serious test for any of us. About how to overcome it with the least mental loss - in the reasoning of the author of "Cleo".

Maybe it's me who is especially impressionable, or maybe it happens to almost everyone, but the first day at a new job is always difficult for me, and even waiting for it is completely exhausting. It begins, as a rule, in a couple of days, bringing a lot of unanswered questions and activating a rather rich imagination. The latter does not spare me at all: I imagine how my colleagues arrogantly laugh at any of my awkward actions, do not want to help in anything, and at dinner they pretend that I do not exist at all. Do I need to say that the day before I go to work, I almost hate her? The fear of the unknown kills absolutely all the positive emotions that I experienced until recently, and all I feel is a lump in my throat. I am afraid to misunderstand the first task, I am afraid of becoming the subject of ridicule and jokes in an already established team, I am afraid, in the end, that this team will not accept me into their “family” and I will, weeping bitterly, dine alone in the toilet cubicle, as they show in American teen comedies. Of course, the latter is nothing more than irony, and schoolchildren rather than adults experience such fear, but we are not alien to feelings about forced communication with new colleagues. Even the most self-confident person worries when they find themselves in an unusual environment.

Even the most self-confident person worries when they find themselves in an unusual environment.

Since I have already changed jobs more than once, I went crazy with fear on the eve of the first working day more than once. And at some point I decided that it was impossible: it was stupid to be afraid in advance of what might not happen. Such “empty” emotions become only a source of stress and certainly do not help us to work productively and win over people. If you, too, are losing your appetite at the thought of heading to a new office tomorrow with new colleagues and a new boss, then try to pull yourself together with the tips below. For me they really work.

Separate the wheat from the chaff

When you are afraid of something, you feel uncomfortable. When you are afraid of something that is not clear, it is even more uncomfortable. Based on this, I decided that from now on I will always determine whether my fears have any basis. This helps a lot to get rid of far-fetched fears that are exhausting no less than real ones. To understand if there is a real threat, I write out all my fears on a piece of paper and critically evaluate what can actually happen from this, and what is the fruit of my rich imagination. When there are half as many “enemies”, it becomes much easier to fight.

When you are afraid of something, you feel uncomfortable. When you are afraid of something that is not clear, it is even more uncomfortable.

Mentally Win

So, we understood what situations really should be feared. But we also know that there is no guarantee that events will develop exactly according to this negative scenario, perhaps everything will work out in the best way. What does "best" mean to you? Imagine how you come to work and see that it is a real dream. Colleagues are friendly, the boss is understanding and tactful, your workplace is comfortable and modern. What more could you want? Set yourself up in a positive mood today, mentally conquer all your fears so that tomorrow you can come to work in a good mood and not expect a dirty trick from everywhere.

Needle-tailored suit

Prepare your clothes for the first day of work in advance. Firstly, the people around will obviously not be delighted with a new colleague who will come to the office in a wrinkled skirt and a washed-out blouse. Secondly, you yourself will feel more confident knowing that you are dressed to the nines. Of great importance is the same and what kind of clothes you choose. Of course, if the company has a dress code, then everything is quite simple: comply with it, and there will be no problems. But if there are no clear rules, you should be careful: no mini-skirts, children's T-shirts and jeans with a low waist. Think about it: you yourself would be wary of a new girl who showed up for work in what she most likely went to the club yesterday.

Smile but don't bother

Show that you are interested in this work and really want to understand what is here and why.

Now let's talk about the first working day. Your behavior is just as important as your appearance. You know that a smile is disarming, and excessive helpfulness is alarming, so be friendly with new colleagues, but do not go too far: you should not intentionally try to please someone and go out of your way, if only the new boss notices you today. Perhaps he will notice, thinking: “Who did I hire?”, But this one is not at all what you need. Therefore, do not take on everything at once (no one expects that on the first working day you will grab the stars from the sky), do not brag about your successes and knowledge, but rather absorb new information like a sponge. Show that you are interested in this work and really want to understand what is here and why.

In this article, I will not consider the case when you just got your first serious job in your life. Everything here is brand new. Everything is unusual. And advice on professional and social adaptation can be given countless.

Rule one. Let's open the chakras and calm down.

So, you are sitting on a new chair for the first day and immediately want to impress the new leadership with your remarkable talents. Nothing will come of it. You are under stress.

Whether you are so nervous that your hands are shaking or you feel a little nervous - this already depends on your personality traits. When in such a suspended state you are trying to prove that you are the best, it leads to unnecessary fuss. You will make twice as many mistakes.

By the way, if you make a mistake, don't be afraid to admit it. Try to suggest ways to fix it. And now let's take a deep breath, remember that only angels are without flaws, and even those in heaven, and open the chakras to receive as much information as possible from the outside.

Rule two. We ask questions and warm our ears.

But the information will pour on you in an endless stream. And keeping most of it in your head is the number one task in the first days of work.
You are lucky if you were met by a wise mentor on the threshold of the office. And told you the following:

1. Job instructions. As a matter of fact, what responsibilities are assigned to you and to what extent.
2. Inner order rules. Is it customary to make tea with cookies at the workplace, how many times a day you can go for a smoke break, how much time is allotted for lunch.
3. It would be ideal if you were initiated into some small things. Let's say the boss doesn't like it when people sing under their breath in the workplace. But, most likely, you will have to get such information yourself.

Therefore, we warm our ears! That is, we learn about the rules of the dress code, if it exists. If loose clothing is allowed, try not to dress too provocatively in the early days. Later, you will be able to determine what is acceptable in this team, and what is better to avoid. The appearance of a new employee can be one of the annoying factors for the "oldies".

Rule four, five, six, etc.

No need for gossip. Washing the bones is an unworthy occupation. And for a new employee is simply unacceptable.

Do not talk on personal topics on the mobile, and even more so on the office phone. In extreme cases, you should leave the working room.

Don't be late. Remember, accuracy is the courtesy of kings!

Don't stay up late. Evening gatherings most likely mean that you cannot properly plan your working day or are trying to curry favor with your superiors. Neither of these will work for you.

Of course, running headlong as soon as the arrows reached six in the evening is also not worth it. We maintain a balance.

Remember, any organization is a complex mechanism. And you will be able to become its full-fledged cog only in a few months. I hope these rules will help you spend these months without unnecessary nerves!