We meet people not by chance. There is always some reason why someone comes into our life and leaves it. And the hardest thing to realize is that some people are destined to be with us only for a little while.

The people who come and go quickly from our lives are usually the ones who open us up to new opportunities and ways to grow and develop.

We don't want to let these people go because we start to get used to them. But we do not understand that some people are destined to be temporary in our lives, no matter how much we would like the opposite.

“Not everything has to become something beautiful and durable. Some people come into your life to show you what is right and wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you how to love yourself, to make you feel better, or just to be someone you can hang out with at night and pour out your soul. Not everyone will stay forever, but we must keep going and be grateful to them for what they have given us.”, - Writer Emery Allen.

I remember my brightest acquaintances and now I understand why each person came into my life, and how he influenced who I am today. I have shared my deepest thoughts, fears, secrets and dreams with people who are no longer in my life. I do not regret it, because at that moment it was exactly what I wanted to do.

I always thought it was amazing that our lives intersect with the lives of so many people, and even if you know someone for only a short time, you can influence his life and his story. To look at all this from this point of view is very exciting.

The sooner we understand that not everyone is destined to be a part of our lives, the easier it will be for us to plunge into new relationships and appreciate the time with certain person letting him go when the time is right. We need to make the most of the time we have with each other and focus on the present. Let go of expectations, assumptions, and saturate yourself with as much communication with people as possible.

“I see a lot of people in unstimulating relationships – not just between guys and girls. Many find themselves in stagnant friendships. If people were less afraid of finishing something, they would get more out of life ... You meet the right person in right time and it fills something in your life. You fill something into it. But there is a limit to this,” singer Laura Marling.

If you lose someone in your life, don't lose yourself.

Always remember that just because some people are temporary in your life, it doesn't make your memories and experiences with them any less important.

Not everyone you lose is a loss. And not everyone you find is worth keeping.

He was to be the One. The ones who get down on one knee, the ones who scream with joy when they see those two pink stripes, the ones who help me blow out the candles for my 80th birthday.

He was supposed to be The One before I lost him.

It hurt at first. Very painful. I've had too many sleepless nights lying in the middle of the bed with a crumpled sheet and a tear-soaked pillow. I felt that it would never stop, I doubted that I had left him in vain, I reproached myself for not trying hard.

But then, one day, I realized that I would be fine. And not just okay, but better than I was before. I will be free. I will finally live the life I want.

All because one day I realized that not everyone you lose is a loss. And not everyone you find is worth keeping.

People come into our lives for a reason, for a purpose. They give us lessons, bring happiness or sadness, open our eyes to something, help us to know ourselves and what we want.

Sometimes people leave our lives for some reason and for some purpose. They leave because they have already completed their mission in our lives, because they have already taught us what they were supposed to, and now it is time for us to move on. Those people who come and go and shouldn't stay.

When they leave, it hurts. You feel empty, like they left you without an umbrella in the pouring rain, like they slammed the door in your face. It seems to you that they took your heart with them, you feel betrayed, hopeless and destroyed.

These feelings are normal at first. But after a few weeks or months, it's time for you to take a step back. You must realize that by losing such people who offended you, who were careless with your heart, you only won. You have won your freedom, joy, peace and tranquility in your soul.

So stop acting like you are losing something valuable, stop giving him/her such power. Pull yourself together, put your heart in pieces and tell yourself every day that this is not a loss, but a victory.

Yes, you could lose a lot with their departure. You could lose memories, shared dreams of the future, morning hugs. You could lose the cute texts at night, the Facebook relationship status, the peace of mind knowing you're not alone.

I lost it all too when I lost him. I understand what it's like when you lie alone at night and you're so lonely that it's hard to breathe. Losing always hurts, I know that.

But here's what. I also lost something else.

I lost the texts and phone calls he ignored, the cold-blooded manipulation, the feeling that I was missing something. I lost the painful reproaches, the accusations that I was always to blame, his careless attitude when I cried.

I lost a person who emotionally abused me.

And while it's hard, it's not a loss. He came into my life and gave me a lesson. And for that I am grateful. I'm grateful for the short time we were happy and that he showed me how strong I can be.

But losing him is good. It's even better than good. Because when I lost him, I found myself. I found my dreams again.

If you have the same feelings, if you finally let go of something so useless and destructive to you, and blame yourself for something, you should not. They are no longer worth your energy and your tears. They are worth nothing to you anymore.

You may have lost them, but you have gained so much more. You won, you got your life back.

Not every fatigue and overload should lead to stress or professional burnout. However, in every burnout there are elements of fatigue, overload, and more.

Over the past few centuries, a person's guilt has increased significantly and it is time to reconsider our views on this. Otherwise, it can end badly, both in a single case and for humanity as a whole.

Almost everything that happens to us is our own fault. Yes Yes, dear reader, exactly! Now many will object to me that they say - but what about fate, predestination, etc. things? Well, I will say more - I am a believer and believe in fate. But what is fate? And is it possible to change fate with your own hands?

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Why is it sometimes better to say "no"

Many have watched the movie "Always say yes", almost everyone has heard the saying: "it is better to do and regret than not to do and regret", but there are things in life that you need to categorically refuse, we will tell about them in this article.

From time to time, all creative people are familiar with the feeling of inner devastation and spiritual burnout. These days the mood becomes bad, new ideas do not come to mind, you don’t want to create and it doesn’t work. This condition can overtake after a long creative work or due to life shocks and stresses not directly related to creativity. Of course, you can give your body a rest, sleep off, eat delicious food, go on vacation and, as a result, restore strength. But how to subsequently regain inspiration and again find yourself in the realm of ideas?

Anyone can experience negative emotions. Everyone has problems, stressful situations, difficult days ... All this pumps out a ton of vital energy from a person, makes him lethargic and tired, doomed and sick. Negativity causes quarrels with loved ones, rude communication with others, curses between people and hatred for the whole world.

How to attract love into your life, what needs to be done for this and is it necessary? Firstly, there are no universal recipes, tips or manuals to follow. Secondly, if in this case, in principle, the word “work” turns out to be appropriate, then work should begin with oneself, changes should be primarily internal.

/ Prologue /

People come and go from our life. Unfortunately, no one can avoid losses and disappointment, everyone, sooner or later, goes through pain, tears, parting and betrayal. Experience, understanding of life and knowledge of the essence of people are built on such a bitter foundation. We are all different, everyone is unique, there is something special inside each of them. Everyone lives life and builds it in their own way. Principles change, views on things take on different forms, we grow up and, accordingly, our environment changes.

THERE IS NO MORE PAIN THAN SEEING HIM WITH ANOTHER

I, as usual, woke up from the alarm melody at exactly 06:30, quickly to the bathroom, then to the kitchen, and then running to the university. This has been every school day for the past three years.

Good morning, Albina hugged me, then ran to the bathroom. My beloved Adyghe, a close friend and classmate, was a sweet, sociable and very charming girl. The number of fans at the university of my girlfriend every day was more and more. The fact that he studied with Albina at our university and her older brother saved her from annoying courtship and excessive attention from boyfriends.

We quickly packed up and went to the university. An ordinary day, ordinary couples, harmful teachers and earphones on boring couples. Albina, making a funny face, squealed:

Kira, my stomach will not forgive you if you don’t go with me to the canteen now, pulling my hand, she ran up the stairs. I laughed as I ran to my friend. In the canteen, where gluttons and truants of hated couples, like me and Albina, gathered in heaps, it was noisy as always. We merrily talked, laughed and drank our favorite cocktail, suddenly my eyes fell on the front door and my heart stung painfully.

I turned away and closed my eyes, as if it were some kind of delusion. But alas, what he saw was reality. Vadim, with his next girlfriend, casually walked through the hall in the direction of a free table by the window, hugging the blue-eyed blonde around the waist. They passed, sat down at a table, after a couple of minutes Vadim got up and went to the counter to place an order. Passing by, he looked in our direction, said hello and passed. Hurt? No, even worse. To love a person, not to be with him and still it is naive to expect that everything will work out, he will return ... Stupid. Silly, but that's how it was, I waited. Although outwardly she tried to hold on and now she only thought about how not to cry in front of everyone. His next relationships, girls, gifts of all kinds of fans and No promises. Nobody. Including me. Albina, Aika and my other girls tried hard to reason with me, asked him to forget, all in vain.

Ayka often warned me that this is how everything would end, that there was no constancy and reliability in him, that these relationships would only be in my minus. But the first love, it’s so easy not to forget it, not to forbid yourself, not to stop feeling, not to stop being jealous. I love. My heart lives in a different rhythm with the mind. The mood was spoiled, the appetite was lost, I wanted to go home, under the covers and cry.

We came home, Albina did not ask unnecessary questions, understanding everything perfectly, but she said that she would not leave me at home alone and I would go to the hall with her.

Kira, don't look at me with the eyes of a cat from Shrek, get ready. Let's go and we're going to the gym. Fast!

Staying at home meant crying to impotence, I decided to listen to my friend and until nine in the evening we spent in the gym. Arriving home, exhausted, I was unable to think about something, quickly take a shower and sleep.

The study proceeded as usual, we went to the gym, walked around the winter Krasnodar, celebrated the holidays - only all this did not give me the proper joy. I coped with depression with great efforts, tried not to meet Vadim at the university, did not discuss him with my friends, tried to drown out my mental pain with physical fatigue, spending endless days in gym. Although, in principle, I had an excellent figure and did not need such halls. But I had to occupy myself with something, otherwise I slowly began to go crazy. What made me forget? Why did I suffer? Understatement - that's what breaks the brain into many fragments of conjecture and hope. I felt that there were many questions, but I knew that I most likely would never get answers to them. We never fully clarified the relationship, there was no face-to-face conversation with questions and answers. Even to leave on - humanly he could not.

HOW WELL IT ALL STARTED

I finally found out the name of that handsome guy who rides in our area in a car. Oh, I think I'm in love. My hero's name is Vadim. Mmm... The memory of his appearance makes me smile. I really want to get to know him. That's just how? He turns out to be studying in the sixth school, it is not far from the school where I study, only we can’t get to know each other.

Yesterday I saw Shoma. It turns out that I know Vadim, they are good friends. And yet ... He also gave me his number and promised to try to introduce us. So hands are reaching out to write to him, there is not enough patience to wait for Shoma to personally introduce us. No, I can't take it anymore, trying is not torture.

Time passed, we began to communicate exclusively by messages, I rarely saw him around the city, but, as it seemed to me, he did not understand that I and Kira were from the seventh school. Oddly enough, girls with that name are in order in our school. Alright, let's see what happens next.

Today I found out that Vadim is dating some Sveta. It didn't disappoint me in the slightest. Would not like not to answer messages and did not get to know me. So this Light is not so necessary for him. Especially now we know each other personally. When I was walking home from the tutor, I met Shoma and Vadim, they were walking in the park. Now he knows me by sight.

Now we correspond even more often, communicate. Apparently rumors are spreading fast in our small town. Someone took care and gave my number to Vadim's girlfriend. She called, asked me not to disturb him and not to write to him anymore. How insecure she turns out to be, since she began to call me with such requests. Well, I just told her that firstly- this does not concern her, and secondly, he himself takes the initiative and writes to me, so let him back off. I hope she doesn't bother me. With Vadim, I will not even think about stopping talking. Not!

A month has already passed, Vadim disappeared completely. But someone else is trying to court me. Such a cute boy, a year older than me, he is 18 years old, his name is Rasul. If Vadim doesn't show up, I'll agree to take a walk in the park with Rasul.

HELLO DEPRESSION, MAKE HOME

This morning I woke up before the alarm, had a nightmare. I don’t sleep well at all, since being busy doesn’t change my state of mind, I need to start drinking sedatives. Sometimes I see Vadim at the university, he communicates with this blonde like that. Of course, she is very beautiful, I won’t say that she is an arrogant sheep, but it hurts to see them together. Highly. Albina and Hayka, as always, say that I'm torturing myself in vain, it's time to pay attention to other guys. Yes, they are certainly right, because I am a free girl. It would be better not to know such freedom when you love. There seem to be nice guys in the gym, we communicate nicely, but everything doesn’t go beyond simple communication. Aika says that I'm probably just not ready even in my thoughts to be with someone other than Vadim, so I mentally push away all possible relationships with guys. And thoughts, as we know, materialize. I really do need time. Time to let go.

My happiness did not last long, so many years of acquaintance and you can count on the fingers the months when he was there. I remember the last months together with an involuntary smile. We rode the bus to our hometown, Dagestan, sat next to each other. All the way he held my hand, I slept a little on the road, and when I woke up I found that he still had not let go of my hand. Then he told me that he tried once again not to move, so as not to wake me up. From such memories, the heart begins to dance in the rhythm of tango, as if the blood begins to go along special routes of the body, causing goosebumps. There were times when he came every day, we sat for hours and chatted about everything in the world. So many emotions, moments and happiness left in me. I have no idea how you can forget all this. Until this winter, everything was fine, at last we began to meet normally, I thought that at last Vadim changed his mind, made up his mind and we would always be together.