If you think that it will hurt now, then we hasten to surprise you. Shibari is not painful, not embarrassing, and not fatal. Just because a guy offers ropes doesn't mean he's a maniac. Give in and learn a lot about your body, responsibility and trust. All relationships are based on trust. Shibari is no exception. Shibari is the erotic art of bondage. The word "shibari" (shibari) means something like "weaving".

In Japan, a rope is a symbol of a person's connection with God. The god in the shibari technique is the top one - the one who knits. The fate of the "lower" is completely in his hands: the ability to move, speak and even breathe. The meaning of shibari is to intertwine together, find harmony and achieve a state of absolute trust. But no one canceled the bodily sensations. On the physical level, the “bottom” experiences a state of sweet numbness. The ropes paralyze the body, and the muscles frozen in one position begin to emit impulses and vibrations that have never been known before.

First of all, it's beautiful

The beauty of the lines is above all. If the partner is not an esthete, he should not even take up the ropes. Knots and patterns on the body should be symmetrical, perfect, and cause a visual orgasm.

The art of shibari originated in Japan as theatrical performances, where beauty and femininity play the main role.

The binding process is a ritual. Everything should be as it should be: twilight, music, entourage. Best of all, the composition is woven on a naked body. You can emphasize the shape of the chest, the thinness of the hands, the fragility of the shoulders, the stretching of the legs, the deflection, fragility, humility. Beautiful evening gowns and silk robes also give a certain gloss. Just do not try to wear panties (even the most erotic ones). You will be braided so that panties (even the wettest ones) will not be able to slide along your knees. And this can become a significant barrier to enjoyment.

Yogis will understand

Have you ever done yoga? All these asanas are also shibari. The body quickly gets used to the pain, relaxes, the veins bleed and trembling pierces every muscle. Do you understand? Now imagine that instead of the instructor's strict looks, your beloved guy gently and boldly caresses your body. A borderline feeling somewhere between pain and pleasure is what romantics call the lustful word "voluptuousness." By the way, experience shows that shibari does not always end with penetration and sex. The body is so excited that an orgasm can occur from any touch, breath, clamp.

As there is aerial yoga, so in shibari there is a state of zuri (suspension). A girl hanging on ropes is a bird soaring above the ground. And it's not even a metaphor. Feeling of flight, weightlessness, gravity. Well, just space!

We are responsible for those who are tied

Antoine de Saint-Exupery clearly knew something.

You are the whole planet. And your dominant is just a Little (!) Prince. But he bears a great responsibility for every particle of the body and every scar on the skin. If the prince is careless, the planet will explode, shattering into billions of pieces.

Choose a prince you trust.

Strap types
Over the hundreds of years of shibari existence, thousands of different poses and harnesses have been invented. Here are just the most popular of them:

Tekubi sibari (hand binding)

This is not so much a harness as such, but rather the initial stage of imposing many other harnesses, however, having shown imagination and tying hands alone, it can become the basis for an exciting sexual game.

Matanawa (thigh harness)

This harness actively stimulates the perineal and genital area. Stimulation can be greatly enhanced by adding a knot in the clitoral area. If you are tying a matanava on a man, you can not use the knot at all, or pay attention that the knot squeezes the prostate projection area (the area between the scrotum and anus), a large knot that squeezes the scrotum will rather bring discomfort to the man. This harness can be made and used independently, without a partner.

Teushiro Shibari (Hand tying behind the back)

You can limit yourself to just tying your hands, then you can have sex with a girl if you put her on your hips. With her hands tied behind her back, the girl should not lie on her back, her hands will quickly become numb, and she will be uncomfortable. Teushiro shibari can be combined with leg binding (in this case, the girl can only lie on her side) and matanawa, with additional stimulation of the perineum. Teushiro Shibari is great for oral sex.

Ashikubi sibari (ankle binding)

Like hand binding, it is the initial step in the application of many harnesses. In the simplest version of the game, you can limit yourself to tying your hands behind your back, legs and connect the ropes together. Then the girl will lie on her stomach, and her genitals and anus will be available for affection. Having sex in this position is uncomfortable.

Theasikubi sibari (tying the wrists to the ankles)

This extremely simple harness makes the anus and genitals of the lower body accessible and at the same time completely deprives it of the ability to move or resist, therefore it refers to the so-called sex harnesses.

M-gata kaikyaku - M-shaped harness with spread legs.

A slightly more complex harness, unlike tying the hands behind the back, does not allow the lower legs to be brought together. Since it will be uncomfortable for the girl to lie on her back, it is best to seat her or lean her against the wall. Alternatively, you can tie a girl in a harness to a chair. Very well suited for stimulation with various sex toys, in a normal situation, excessive stimulation will lead to the fact that the girl will simply bring her legs together and stop playing, in this harness she will not be able to do this.

Karada (torso harness)

The peculiarity of the strapping Karada (literally - the body) is that it stimulates a variety of erogenous zones. In this harness, the legs remain free, so the girl can walk around the room, with each step more and more exciting herself with pressure and friction of the knots, while if her hands are tied, she will not be able to free herself. Additional stimulation can be achieved by pulling the rope that goes to the groin or hanging the girl by it. Karada can be worn for hours without untying (the main thing is to monitor the blood circulation of the hands).

Dzi-Karada (Self-tying)

Along with the groin harness, the karada is also available for self-wearing. It can be worn under clothing and enjoy the sensations unnoticed by others.

Agura Shibari (Shrimp Pose)

It was originally used as torture: it is distinguished by a characteristic forced kneeling posture, therefore this harness is also called Ebi sibari (shrimp harness). A long rope between the chest and legs can control the intensity of the binding. In agura shibari, let the girl rest, laying her on her side, otherwise her muscles will quickly ache, because we are playing, not doing torture. The girl can be turned over on her stomach and then her genitals open for caress from behind.

Tsuru (hanging).

Most harnesses allow you to hang the lower ones. In this case, the weight of the body falls on the nodes, significantly enhancing the sensations. For example, if you hang a karada harness by a rope on your stomach or chest, then the weight of the lower body will fall on the knot in the clitoris. Another very interesting pose is the Crane (number 5 in the illustration), it came from the torture and humiliation of women in Japan in the Middle Ages. Crane is very good for cunnilingus , caresses with hands and sex toys. If you wait long enough, you can get a “waterfall” from the girl, when urine flows down the free leg, for which this position was actually conceived. Do not hang a girl by her wrists if she has ever had a dislocated shoulder joint, even if it happened many years ago in childhood. Otherwise, you risk spending an exciting evening in the emergency room.

The illustrations are excerpts from the manga "Karada mo Kokoro mo Boku no Mono ~ Hajimete no SM Guide ~"

Precautionary measures

If you decide to try the poses and strappings described above in practice, remember. If a girl agreed with you in shibari, she clearly trusts you. Do not deceive this trust and do not turn an exciting erotic game into a nightmare.

1. Most harnesses make a girl completely helpless, don't leave her unattended for more than a few minutes, or better yet, don't leave her at all.

2. Do not turn the photo shoot into sex (if the contract was only about photographs), the same goes for anal sex (if you don’t normally practice it), sex with someone else and everything else that she might not like. Don't try new practices that the girl wouldn't volunteer to do if she wasn't tied up and helpless. Don't turn the game into violence.

3. Come up with a "stop word" that will mean the unconditional end of the game, if you use a gag, put a coin or ball in the girl's palm. If she dropped it, then something went wrong, she was hurt, scared, uncomfortable, and the game should stop.

4. None of the shibari harnesses involve neck compression. If the girl feels uncomfortable or has difficulty breathing, then you did the harness incorrectly. Stop the game and put on the harness again, and in no case hang the girl without fixing the harness. You don't want to kill her, do you?

5. If you use an impromptu gag, such as her panties combined with duct tape, be careful that the girl can breathe freely through her nose. A banal runny nose or an unsuccessful posture can put her life in danger. Monitor Behavior bottom(upper is the one who binds and subdues, lower or lower, the one who submits) and the color of her lips. If they begin to turn blue, remove the gag immediately and stop playing if necessary.

5. Before starting the game, prepare scissors or a knife that will allow you to quickly release your bottom. Ropes are cheap, health and life are priceless.

6. If the girl's fingers, wrists or ankles turn blue, it means that you put the knots too tight or the knots tightened during the game, you have no more than 10-15 minutes to end the session and free the girl.

7. Do not engage in shibari drunk or under the influence of drugs, alcohol and drugs generally do not go well with SM practices. They will prevent you from being properly focused on the game and the safety of the bottom, and the bottom on the feel of the game.

8. Do not hang the girl for longer than 15-20 minutes, after hanging, untie the harness and let her rest. Suspension should always be the final stage of the game.

9. If possible, do not use synthetic ropes, they damage the skin more, stretch and cause circulatory disorders much more easily.

10. Never go to bed using a shibari, cuddling and caressing a tied and helpless bottom can be nice, but never fall asleep. The same applies if you put a harness on yourself. Mild discomfort from knots and ropes will not prevent the bottom or you from falling asleep, however, in the morning, you can meet bedsores and dead limbs. The need to amputate at best a few fingers is unlikely to help your relationship.

Instruction

For tying hands back you can use a belt, a regular rope, a tie and other improvised materials.

To tie arms thief with a trouser belt, use a double non-stretch loop. To do this, fold the belt in half so that the rough surfaces of the belt are in contact, thread it from above into the hole in the buckle. Then expand the loop formed, throw it over your hands and tighten, while pulling on the end of the belt and at the same time rotating it to the side so that the belt does not cover the buckle hole.

To remove a tight loop, grab it tightly over the top layer with the fingers of both hands, make a few movements in the opposite direction to tightening the loop and loosen it. To determine the direction in which to unwind the loop, make sure that the free end overlaps the opening of the buckle. That's the direction and turn.

In this way, tie not only with a belt, but also with other objects that have a hole: a dog leash, straps from bags, cameras, etc.

Another way is tying with a tie. Quickly take off your tie, pull the existing loop on both arms thief, which are located in parallel. Tighten the loop, spread the ends of the tie in opposite directions and tie them with a figure eight from the bottom.

And another way is tying with an ordinary rope. Use a loop for it. Fold the rope in half, then take it with your right hand from the side of the ends, and open the closed end and put it on your fingers. Put the open end on the rope that is in your right hand. Thumb, as well as forefinger of the right arms fold, clamp the rope and move your left hand to the left along the rope.

Put the resulting loop on the thief arms, tighten it firmly, while separating the ends of the rope. Then wrap them around arms two or three times and tie the ends with a regular knot.

Another option for such a loop is to tightly wrap the rope around your hands several times, and thread its ends into a pre-prepared loop. Then spread the ends of the rope in opposite directions, wrap it around and tie a knot between your hands.

Useful advice

When tying your hands, it is better if you are with an assistant who will help keep the thief until the called police squad arrives.

Sources:

• how to tie a girl

You will need

• - rope

Instruction

To tie your hands at the beginning, you need to tie a knot in such a way that we have a single rope, and not. Accuracy and the absence of double overlaps are important here. We put the loop on the partner's hands joined by the palms. We place the coils on the wrists and inspect them for overlaps. We pull on the free ends of the ropes, thereby adjusting the tension of the loop.

We fix the knot by making several simple knots around the long end with the free short end of the rope. And that's it, the node is ready. It remains only to check the correctness and accuracy of the work. The node should look like . If the strapping is ugly, the knot is of poor quality. Indeed, in an ugly harness there are overlaps, different in turns and knots, incorrectly tied. In addition, the partner should be comfortable and comfortable.

The coils that cover the wrists should not be too loose so that nothing dangles. If the little finger hardly climbs under them, the tension is the most. But also not to tighten them too much. The coils should press the hands one to the other gently, but also tightly, without causing unpleasant, painful sensations.

There are many ways to tie your hands together. And each one is good and unique in its own way. The one below is not even a way to tie hands, but rather just an example of a good and strong knot that can be used for many purposes, including tying hands.

This method of tying is based on a knot called "stirrup". What is good about this node? It can be easily tied with at least two hands, at least one. Depending on the location of the ropes, this knot can be both non-tightening and tightening, which will allow you to quickly adjust it in tension and diameter. "Stirrup" is widely used in mountaineering and climbing, to create support loops for securing the rope. And this means that the node is tested and reliable. If the ropes run parallel to each other from the knot, then the loop will not stretch under load, and the ropes spread out to the sides will make it possible to adjust the size of the loop.

You will need

• - rope

In order to properly tie a girl, it is not necessary to study books, this is primarily a philosophy and a creative approach. It's always fun to try something new or aesthetically pleasing, like shibari (Japanese bondage). The most important thing is the beauty of the lines. It is enough to learn how to make a few knots, and everything else is your imagination.

The quality of the rope and its tension are of great importance, it should hurt, not sag, but force the body to be in tension. The pain threshold here is the limiter. But in general, everything is very individual and in each case is unique.

Shibari - background

How to properly tie a woman

The tradition of tying up women originated in Japan, a country known for its quirky relationship culture. Since ancient times, the rope in Japan has been given special importance, considering it a symbol of the connection between man and God. Most of the jewelry was tied with a rope, and almost all elements of clothing were tightened with it.

In the 15th-16th centuries, when the country was torn apart by feudal wars, a special technique for tying captives appeared - hojo-jutsu. The bottom line was that the nodes were located at special points of the body, with the help of which it was possible to achieve complete paralysis of the enemy’s body or even his slow strangulation.

During the Edo period (1600-1868), when the wars ended and the period of economic prosperity began, the tradition migrated to the everyday life of the Japanese. It was then that the first theatrical performances began to appear, in which specially trained masters tied the girls for the fun of the public. A little later, special clubs began to open, where the art, called shibari, began to spread actively. Masters have always been distinguished by the fact that they emphasized the skillfulness of the harnesses and theatricality of actions, so that an untrained person would never be able to repeat their work.

Basic elements of shibari

Hands tied in front

The rope folded in half is pulled into the stirrup loop. After that, the loop is put on the closed palms of the girl. The loop is tightened, then the ends are tied with a simple knot. In a similar way, you can tighten, if necessary, and one hand.

Legs tied to the knees

The stirrup loop is put on the leg. After that, the captive's legs are bent at the knees, and the rope is made several turns around the ankle. The rope is held under the coil and begins to encircle the leg in the opposite direction. The final binding ends with a knot.

Hands tied behind back

A loop tied with a stirrup knot is threaded into the left hand. After that, the rope goes over the left shoulder, encircles the chest and reaches the right wrist. The main thing here is to pull the rope harder to fix the position of the hand. Then it goes around the right hand and is carried out in the opposite direction, close to the previous turn. The rope comes to the left wrist and is similarly fastened there. The operation is repeated several more times, then the rope is fixed with a knot on the right hand.

Tied feet

The ankles are crossed, after which they are connected by the same stirrup knot. The rope wraps around the lower leg several times and is fixed with a knot just below the knees. The rest of the rope is pulled between the legs and down to the first knot. Then the rope again goes between the thighs, but in the opposite direction. After several turns, the rope is knotted. The main thing is to pull the rope all the time so that the legs are pressed as tightly as possible to each other.

How they dealt with it in the movies:

CAUCASUS CAPTIVE, 1966

Coward, Dunce, and Seasoned seem to have first-hand knowledge of shibari culture, or have randomly reproduced it. Japanese technology. All loops neatly encircle the captive, and in the end they are skillfully tightened on the chest. It turned out to be very reliable: Nina, no matter how much she resisted, could not get out, and even Shurik needed a lot of effort to untie at least one of her hands.

CAUCASUS CAPTIVE, 1966

LINK ME, 1990

Ricky skillfully took advantage of the environment - in order to deprive the girl of the opportunity to move, he simply tied her to the bed. A few loops on the legs and arms - and now it makes no sense to call for help. As a result, the captivity only benefited the girl - she fell in love with her kidnapper and went to him (which, although fiction, can serve as some argument in a dispute about linking with feminists).

LINK ME, 1990

MOROZKO, 1964

Nastenka was tied up in an old-fashioned but quite reliable way: they wrapped loops around a tree in the forest. Perhaps the methods of the villagers will seem a little clumsy, but they certainly work flawlessly.

MOROZKO, 1964

CARRIER, 2002

The villains primitively tied Lai's hands, sealed her mouth and placed her in a bag. Some freedom in movements, which the bandits thoughtlessly left to the captive, eventually saved her life: having noticed the moving load, the protagonist found her.

CARRIER, 2002

BUFFY, 1997–2003

An excellent example of how to tie girls without unnecessary wisdom: the mouth is sealed, the arms are twisted behind the back, the ankles are closed and tightly pressed against each other. In this position, the girls can only roll on the floor. The main thing is to watch if they have hidden a knife, a pin or any other sharp object in their sleeve.

Binding methods are determined in the process of solving specific problems. For example, when escorting, they tie their hands, to exclude violent behavior, other, more tough measures tying, including tying arms, legs and torso. As a rule, they tie the hands behind the back (when the suspect is brought in by transport, the hands are tied in the front position).

For a more reliable restriction of movement, apply the following provisions hands when tying:

• hands behind the back, hands crossed (photo 1)
• hands behind the back, hands one above the other (photo 2)
• hands behind the back, hands pressed one to the other with the back side (photo 3)
• hands behind the back, one above, the other below (photo 4)
• hands behind the head, hands crossed, the free end of the rope is tied to the waist or trouser belt (photo 5)
• arms crossed on the chest, hands behind the back (photo 6)

When binding, it is necessary to be on the side of the enemy, out of reach of the legs.
Binding is used, as a rule, after painful holds and throws. In order to bind, it is advisable to force the suspect to take an uncomfortable position for him - stand facing the wall, lean on it with his hands or lie on his stomach, hands behind his back.

Strapping with a trouser belt

To bind the opponent with a trouser belt, a double non-stretching loop is used (photo 9).
To prepare a loop for tying with a belt, it is necessary to fold the belt in half (at the same time, to increase the reliability of tying, the rough surfaces of the belt should touch), put the buckles into the hole from above, expand the loop formed, put it on the hands and tighten by pulling the end of the belt and rotating it in that direction so that the belt does not block the buckle hole (photo 7,8,9,10,11) (the clockwise rule does not work here).

To remove a tightened loop, it is necessary to tightly grasp it with the fingers of both hands on top of the upper layer, make several movements in the opposite direction to tightening the loop and loosen it.
To determine in which direction to unwind the loop, you need to make sure that the free end of the belt covers the hole in the belt buckle (photo 10.12), and twist it there.

When tying in this way, instead of a belt, you can use any improvised means similar to a belt with a buckle in the form of an “ear” (dog leash, belts from radio stations, bags, cameras, briefcases).

Tie binding

Remove the tie, pull the loop of the tie over the opponent's two hands, parallel to each other. After tightening the loop, spread the ends of the tie in different directions and tie them at the bottom with a “figure eight” (photo 13,14,15,16,17,18).

Rope tying

1 option

Consider one of the more reliable ways to tie your hands behind with a rope. For this method, the rope should be approximately 2-2.5 meters long, depending on the height and flexibility of the binder.

Under the threat of a weapon or when conducting combat techniques, force the enemy to lie down on the ground, and sit on him astride performing a painful hold on both hands. Make sure that, sitting on the opponent, with your hips tightly press the forearms of his arms bent behind the back (photo 19,20,21). In case of resistance of the enemy, slightly kneel. This will lift both of the opponent's forearms off his back and cause him severe pain in both shoulder joints.

Take out the rope and make a tightening loop. To do this, take the end of the rope with your right hand and wrap it once around your left hand (photo 22,23,24). Grab the free end of the rope with your left hand and tighten the loop (Pic 25).

The loop will be made correctly if, by pulling on the long end, it is tightened. Another condition in the manufacture of the loop, the short end should be 30-40 centimeters. Another option is the throw loop (photo 32,33,34), but it eats up more than 20 cm of rope.

Put the loop on the opponent's right wrist (Pic 26). Throw the rope over his right shoulder and passing it under his chest, slip it from below into the crook of his left arm (Pic 27). Then pass the rope through the bottom of the loop formed (Pic 28), put your left hand on the rope and wrap around the opponent's wrist. Next, alternately wrap the wrist of the right and left hands one more time and wrap at least two turns of the rope between the opponent’s hands (the more turns, the tighter the knot). Take the short end of the rope and wrap it between your hands in the opposite direction and secure with a regular knot (Pic 28,29,30,31).

In this way, you can also tie in a standing position, bending your arm behind your back, pressing the intruder against the wall, but it is much more difficult to control his actions.

Option 2

For quick tying, a “throw” loop is used. To make a loop, fold the rope in half, take it with your right hand from the side of the ends, open the closed end and put it on your fingers; put the open closed end on the rope at the right hand. With the index and thumb of the right hand, fold, hold the rope and move the left hand along the rope to the left (photo 32.33).
Put the resulting loop on your arms or legs. The loop "throw" can be made by laying the rope on the hands and inserting both ends into the open closed end.
To tie, put the loop over your hands, tighten it tightly, separating the ends of the rope, wrap your hands 2-3 times with them and tie the ends with an ordinary knot (photo 34,35,36,37,38,39).

Critical places where contraction enhances sexual sensation are wrists, ankles, elbows (but don't force them to come together behind the back with brute force), soles of the feet, thumbs and toes).

Slick women don't stop halfway when they want to tie the last two with leather cord - if you doubt it - try it).

What exactly to use for binding is a matter of taste. Quirks like the straitjacket or Boy Scout suspenders aside: various couples use leather or rubber belts, elastic bands, scraps of clothing, a pajama belt, or thick, soft rope. Belts are most comfortable for women who are not too strong or too dexterous to tie. sea ​​knots. They need holes through half an inch. Triangular bandages are very convenient for quickly binding hands and feet, but they do not look too sexy: the neatness of the "package" and its "tortuosity" excites the active partner.

Old stockings are a favorite resource, but they are damn hard to untie quickly in a pinch. Chains, handcuffs, etc. - fast, but do not create the necessary compression and it hurts to lie on them. When they are closed, you cannot hope that you will be able to quickly open them. The creepy machines sold by adult-toy manufacturers are only good for "birdies" or for posing in photographs. If you like them, make your own.

For most ordinary couples, a skein of linen is sufficient. Cut strips 4 feet long - 5-6 pieces and a couple of 6-foot strips, and wrap them around, adjusting the tension with your hand, but do not tighten until bruised.

Some energetic people also like to be gagged. As one lady said, "It keeps the bubbles in the champagne." Shutting up and being shut up excites most men, most women openly abhor the prospect, but the look of erotic surprise on a well-plugged woman's face when she finds she can only meow is irresistible to the violent instincts of most men.

In addition to the symbolism and "feeling of helplessness", this allows the subject to squeal and bite during orgasm, which helps complete freedom, unless you are provided with a rhinoceros skin or live in a soundproof room. This makes prompting impossible, so your partner's initiative is out of your control.

Most men who get turned on by this kind of play like to be completely silent. Courageous women often love it after a few tries, if they're biting or love the feeling of helplessness, others hate it and lose their orgasm in the process. Some people like to be blindfolded at the same time - or instead.

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